
Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

deleted_user
okay did the first social outing since my husbands funeral i wouldn't have missed watching a friend's daughter get married knew the reception could feel wierd but i should be able to suck it up and manage- right? a couple of extra deep breaths in the parkinglot and a return to the car for a lipstick check and obviously one last stall the ceremony was beautiful had a few tears when the father walked the bride down the aisle and the stroll to the unknown: with whom am i sitting? no way will they have been able to re-do the seating chart/card and take off my husbands name--no matter this bride is awesome and she has grouped me with incredible people:) so i go to the bar not unusual i have for years been the one to retrieve the drinks for both of us -- then i have my first eeewww gross yuck oh not today moment--and it hits me gross single woman at the bar no-no widowed woman standing alone at the bar ordering just one drink-- now grosser approached by probably kind innocent man initiating simple social overture basic weather talk. guess what this is too weird i'm in a movie right my life has been absurd it still is and should just keep watching it i'll jump in again soon.


acuriousfish
Well done to you. I went to a village hall talk, luckily I was able to sit with a neighbour but fled when it came to the socialising bit.

deleted_user
this must have been so, so hard for you. I had to go to another funeral not so long after my husband died and sat next to a man who needed to share the hymn sheet with me - this felt so weird as it should have been my husband with me. He was on his own too and was friendly as we walked out of the church, but I couldnt bear it and walked on ahead and didnt go back to the friends home, couldnt stand it without my husband. I'm ok now with that, but that was too early days...really was - must have seemed rude but it should have been my husband with me - couldnt be friendlly with someone else...
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