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Moving and happy about it

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deleted_user
I am still a bit stunned by how fast things have happened ! I went to my daughter and son-in-laws at the beginning of December and decided it was the place I wanted to move to.......I registered with the Housing Association.....and this past Wednesday was offered , and accepted a lovely one bedroom flat which exceeds all my needs AND wants !

It is a strange feeling....moving alone, and for the first time in my life it is my home only :( It hurts in a lot of ways.....yet I feel Mike would approve of it all.

Am back in " our " flat for just one week to pack up and then move just over 100 miles away next Saturday !!

I miss my boy so terribly :( but I will make the best I can of this " new start " .
I think of you all here and hope that you all find some new beginnings this year that will ease the pain and give you all a measure of happiness once more. {hugs} Kath
deleted_user
deleted_user
I wish you well in your new adventure. You sound like a strong and wonderful person.
lovelos
lovelos
I am happy for you. It will be nice to be closer to your family. I just moved with my husband into a condo the week before he died. The plan was to move much earlier but it didn`t work out. I am thankful that it worked out and my husband was so relieved we moved before he died. I think he hung on until the move was over. May 2011 and your new home bring you happiness.

Lu Ann
Truhal
Truhal
Congrats. I did the same thing and am very happy I did. You'll enjoy decorating it the way you want. I enjoy the solitude now. I rented a one bedroom with a den. I spend most of my day there, chatting with the bird, listening to music, coming to this site. It's a different life, but it's life. And I'm getting what I can from it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Good for you. It seems a sign that this is what you are meant to do when things fall into place like that. Best wishes on your new place. Hug, Donna
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deleted_user
I moved the end of my first year. It was such an adventure. It is the first time I have ever lived on my own.

So many things to learn.

Hugs,

Holly
Nicker07
Nicker07
I think that is a positive change I wish you the very best.
julie50501
julie50501
Congratulations! Hope your move goes great for you! I am going to move from Iowa to Oregon in the spring. I also was ready to move much sooner, but people kept saying not to make any big decisions in the first year. Sometimes I wish I had just gone ahead and moved, but the extra time to get my house ready to sell has been good too. I have a daughter living there, and I really need to be closer to family now. I think when it comes to making decisions after losing a spouse, you really just need to follow your heart and do what feels right. Sounds like this is the right decision for both of us!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I hope your move went well., I moved to this month. I was hard but working it out. IT will be so wonderful when God's promise comes to be. "He will actually swallow up death forever."Isaiah 25:8 and our loved one will be resurrected.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Blessings to you in your move. I will be moving in June, and like you the first time I moved alone. Know he goes with you in your heart. That is what I am clinging to.
Parmela
Parmela
I took the plunge and moved on 12/18. I can honestly say its the best thing I've done for myself. It's so much easier for me to have a new attitude toward the future in new surroundings.

You'll find it's especially fun to decorate your home without having to worrry about anybody else's tastes. My bedroom is so girly that my husband would have refused to sleep there..... but I love it!

Good luck and have fun!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Congratulations. This is my goal for the end of the year...to find something closer to town...I am between cornfields and hayfields now...and something a bit smaller.

Love the description of your room. ~smiling~
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am happy for all those out there moving and liking it. I HAVE to move in less than two weeks. My husband was killed on Jan. 4. This is too soon, but our housing was furnished by the church my husband pastored at. I have founda house to rent that is closer to the school I teach at and will save me a 30 mile one way drive. I just do not want to do this. I don't want to go somewhere new right now, but there is no other option. I have started packing my husband's belongings to take with us. I can't give them away. The children might want something of his when they are older.

I admire all of you that can do this without reservation.

Celia
deleted_user
deleted_user
COngrats on your move.

I, too, amde a move 2 months after Franks death in order to be closer to work. I was driving 80 miles round trip and I thought the saved time might help me..not to mention gas costs. I have the hosue on the market.

And I am looking for one here to buy.

Parmela's comment on her bedroom being so girly also made me realise that I purchased a pale green comforter with tiny flowers on it...I wanted something new for the bedroom...and Frank hated the color green...so I seem to have navigated to the color I could never have! He would hate it and the flowers!

PSL Celia3: I also teach. High School.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Congratulations on your move. I'm trying to decide if I should put the house on the market. I know what I should do, but this was our dream house, and I just love it and the area. I should do it before I HAVE to do it. Will go slowly - and try to find something I would consider first, smaller, but in the same area.
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