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Mornings overwhelm me and I get sick.

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deleted_user
My husband died a llittle over a week ago. I am pregnant although out of my first trimester. I wake up and feel like I'm in the wrong life. I get over welmed and cry and throw up I get confused what feeling to have because unfortunatly the day he died I also found out about infidelity. I'm mad, sad of his death, sad that he cheated and I don't know his love, mad ect. I need some feed back. Thank you.
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deleted_user
I don't know what to say, especially since you can not even confront him now. Do not think too harshly of him. Sometimes things happen, spur of the moment. Not thinking things but acting on it. hugs to you, make sure your doc knows what you are going through.
Community Leadercliffskat
cliffskat
My dad died when I was pregnant with my first child and my husband was unfaithful to me. The only way to keep going was to allow myself pockets of time where it was okay to cry (and yes, throw up), but always making sure to keep taking care of myself as that means taking care of the baby too. Make sure you eat, take your prenatal vitamins, go to prenatal doctor visits and classes -- do not let your husband's mistakes stop you from loving the baby and taking care of the two of you. Your baby is part of you and part of all the people who came before you and loved you - including the love your husband had for you. I know it seems to be a big contradiction to be mad and sad and optimistic (about the baby) all at the same time, and you DO have the right to be ALL of those things. Someday when you are holding your baby in your arms it will make more sense - I know I'm not saying it well here. It's good that you're here.
Community Leaderacuriousfish
acuriousfish
I lost my wife and things after were a bit complicated. I spent weeks obsessing over what might or might not have happened. After a while that anger, confusion lifted, I decided I could not be sure and even if I could it did not really matter and then I was just sad.

What you feel will change from day to day, week to week. I will you luck with your journey.
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