I will understand but I wanted to post my experience in the hopes that it may help someone.
I know some of you are new in your grief and could never imagine dating someone, but at some point, you might consider it.
Depending upon your circumstances, i.e., how long you have been a widow/widower, how long your loved one was sick, etc., it might be a long time since you were last intimate with anyone.
In my case, the cancer had spread to my husband's bones and in the end, I couldn't hold him or even touch him without causing him pain. He was sick for a long time and I was sick, too, so it had been a very long time since I had been held by a man or been intimate.
A few months ago I met someone and we became intimate and I thought I had found the Holy Grail. I realize now that was not the case but it had been so long and I missed that kind of contact with a man so much that I built it up in my head to be much, much more than it really was.
The relationship has ended..............we really weren't meant for each other but I was blinded to that fact for several months. I am sure I am not the first widow to have done this, nor will I be the last.
my husband is dying. I try to do as much as I can to take it off his plate. I keep making mistakes, making him mad, making him wish he was dead. I have to be perfect. I don’t know what to do. I love him so much I just want him to be okay. I want him to be around and enjoy our daughter it I don’t know how to get him to see any positive in life.