I will understand but I wanted to post my experience in the hopes that it may help someone.
I know some of you are new in your grief and could never imagine dating someone, but at some point, you might consider it.
Depending upon your circumstances, i.e., how long you have been a widow/widower, how long your loved one was sick, etc., it might be a long time since you were last intimate with anyone.
In my case, the cancer had spread to my husband's bones and in the end, I couldn't hold him or even touch him without causing him pain. He was sick for a long time and I was sick, too, so it had been a very long time since I had been held by a man or been intimate.
A few months ago I met someone and we became intimate and I thought I had found the Holy Grail. I realize now that was not the case but it had been so long and I missed that kind of contact with a man so much that I built it up in my head to be much, much more than it really was.
The relationship has ended..............we really weren't meant for each other but I was blinded to that fact for several months. I am sure I am not the first widow to have done this, nor will I be the last.
Okay now, I'll do my best to make this short (yeah, right)? So let's see, the lady I've been dating, Gloria aka my OO, has only been to my house 4 or 5 times when we started dating this past Thanksgiving, and then I began noticing that she just doesn't want to come over here anymore. By the way, she's taken to calling me her OO. OO!!! I'm not always the sharpest knife in the block, but I kinda...
today i will take my first real trip alone without my Andrew. I have mixed feelings. I not one to like flying and this time i won't have him to hold my hand or rest my head on his shoulder. But, i am excited to see a new place and some friends. Wish me luck everyone and honey, wherever you may be, be with me today. I love you, Mish