I "want" a second, third, etc. opinion. There is a friend that has told me several times if I need to talk to someone, to call them. His wife hasn't told me this, just him. There is no doubt that he is just being a friend who wants to help, but, I'm not going to do this and I'll explain why. While my husband was sick, there was another couple we had been friends with for several years. During this time, the wife passed away. Just after her death, the man would call me and ask how my husband was doing, etc. He would talk, and talk, and talk. I would tell him that I could put my husband on the phone and he could let him know better as to how he was doing but no, he had to talk to me and he didn't know when to shut up. If I didn't answer, he would leave a message for me to call him back, not my husband but me, and if I didn't, he would continue to call. My husband wouldn't answer and talk to him but yet it would make him mad that this man was doing this. I felt like I was caught in the middle in an awkward position. This man may have been lonely and his motives may have been innocent but if so, he went about it the wrong way in my book. That is why I'm not going to call this friend that tells me to call them if I need to talk. There is times that yes, I would love to talk to someone and I'm afraid I'm wearing the people's ears out that I do call. I don't want to "wear out my welcome" with those that have helped me. But, I also don't want to put anyone in the position that I was put in and in my opinion, that is what I would be doing even though he told me to call if I needed them. Again, his wife hasn't offered this. What is your opinion? I'm not going to do it but I'm just curious.
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