
Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

deleted_user
My husband had a short term affair not long before he died. I feel like I have lost him twice. Id love to give this woman a piece of my mind but is it a good idea to confront her? I havnt yet made any contact with her since he died almost ten months ago. I have not seen her but I can describe her. She knows information about me and where we live etc. Ive even thought about moving away to get away from all the gossiping when it gets too much. Has anyone been through a similar experience?

eileenR
i haven't been through that situation. But Please give it a little longer making decisions like moving away should not be made till at least a year. We go through so much in our walk in grief. Gossip is a horrible sin. ANd people never see the double edged sword that it truely is. It makes me mad!!! Yes, I can understand the losing two time theory. But you need to focus on the good times you shared. You can't change his actions. You can't change the situation. You probally never truely forgiven him. So this is confusing the grief process. Write him a letter telling him what you are feeling. Then go to a special place and burn it for the ashes to go in the ground. here is hug and I hope this helps.

deleted_user
When my husband died, there was gossip in my hometown 1000 miles away - and I have not lived there in 25 years. There is gossip in my office and in my former office. When someone gets too personal, nosey or starts talking, I simply say, "Really? I have no idea what you are talking about." "That is absolutely not true." It gives me pleasure because it really does set them back. I have no problem confronting a gossip in a firm, but diplomatic manner. Good luck to you!
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