hi Lisa. I guess all of us here have been on this journey. That we are here is testament that you will get through this. I'm not going to tell you it's easy, but you will survive.

Then one day it will be that you survive and something more.

And over time the something more grows.

my wife passed away over a year ago i feel just as you do you will cry get angry at him for dying i have found that writing in your jounal everyday helps take walks eat right through at first it will be hard as time goes on the weight will fell a little lighter you will still cry but it takes time for it to sink in i am here anytime you want to write when you feel sad that is what this site is for for each one of us to help each other big big hugs

Four weeks is such a short time on this road we call grief. It is a really, really tough time, you will feel all kinds of emotions... Just take it day by day, baby steps some people say, and I think being here will be of great help to you. There are many people going through the same, and so know how you are feeling. Take care of yourself, hugs. jazzy

I could not have described the way I feel any better than you just said it!!! I'm so angry! I dream about him!Sometimes I feel like I'm going to explode or something! It's hard to even describe but I do know how you feel!!! I'm wondering how many more complete meltdowns I'm going to have to endure before I start to feel better and gain some sanity back!!!

My husband passed away 3 1/2 weeks ago and I totally understand how you are feeling. I have to force myself to get up every day and some days I just lay on the couch crying all day. It isn't going to be easy, but we will get through this, in our own way and in our own time, although right now it doesn't seem possible.

The pain doesn't get any easier. The first holidays are really bad. My husband has been gone 8 months and I still feel like I am in a fog. Just pray. That's all I do.

Lisa - it is a tough journey but as the first reply said, that we are all here is testament that you will get through this....our thoughts are with you in this terrible time....Cathrynn X

I know exactly what you mean. It's been 7 weeks for me. I feel like laying down a lot even if I can't sleep. I will say that I feel better now than 4 weeks ago, though it is up and down and not a steady thing. When ny daughter went back to college and I was all alone, I thought that I might have a nervous breakdown, but it's getting slowly better. Not good, of course, but better,
I'm beginning to learn that there is no magic hanbook on how to survive. Everybody's different. Hang in there.

The hurt is so fresh. Take one day at a time.

Hi Lisa, I joined here tonight after reading your story. Our stories are somewhat similar. My darling died after a ferocious cancer took him in just 4 months. I was 8 months pregnant. I am 32. My sweetheart was 32 also. We had been together for 12 years and married for 6.

I am 7 months down the track though and can only tell you that the best advice given to me was 'Just be, this is no race' So don't hurry yourself. Your body is in shock. You will draw on survival skills you didn't even know you had. Take it slowly. I am still numb. Still shocked when I wake up. But I can see that I am getting stronger each day.

Thinking of you from this side of the world.