Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
He promised me 50 years. He promised he would fix what he broke. He promised he would never hurt me or the kids like that. He promised me forever.
If only I knew "forever" would be without him. If only I knew my babies would only have their hero long enough to feel the pain of his leaving.
If only my heart would have healed quicker,
If only I would have forgiven sooner,
If only I knew how he had felt all his life,
If only I knew the dark side of his heart... Maybe I could have helped
Helping would have been much easier than healing
Much easier than mending broken hearts of little ones
Much easier than cleaning up the mess he left me with!
If only I knew "forever" would be without him. If only I knew my babies would only have their hero long enough to feel the pain of his leaving.
If only my heart would have healed quicker,
If only I would have forgiven sooner,
If only I knew how he had felt all his life,
If only I knew the dark side of his heart... Maybe I could have helped
Helping would have been much easier than healing
Much easier than mending broken hearts of little ones
Much easier than cleaning up the mess he left me with!
deleted_user
I am sorry for your loss! My son in law shot himself in feb of 2004. he had 2 kids 8 and 5 at the time. First he made my daughter leave the house with the kids and told her if she came here he would kill us all. So she had to go to a shelter. Then back to our house. He then disposed of everything that was hers in the house. They divorced and a few months later he shot himself. There was a lot more to this story, like he was a good man who lost it and couldn't find himself combine that with alcohol and drugs he just couldn't get back to us. we all still love him.Or the him we knew he was, but there sometimes is just no way of helping their pain is too bad. I am sorry for you from the bottom of my heart. be strong and remember you could not have stopped this. You have to be strong for your children.
deleted_user
I saw my husband's suicide. I know of your pain and anger.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
