Ok, I know I have read on here many times that others have this same problem. I have the hardest time getting motivated to do the things I NEED to do at home---cleaning the bathrooms, the floors, doing the laundry---all the things that you have to do on a normal basis. I have been so relieved to find out that other widows and widowers feel the same, it's just hard to get going and not just sit in front of the TV or somewhere else with your mind in a fog. What I want to know now is how long did it take some of you who have been on this journey longer than myself (I'm at 7 months)to get back to some kind of routine where you just get it done??? Someone please tell me that it does happen at some point. I am having to force myself to get these things done, otherwise my house would be a wreck. I don't have a problem picking up after myself or keeping the dishwasher filled and run, but I just can't seem to get into a routine for doing those other things. I am determined to get all this stuff done today, but I just don't WANT to. Somehow when I look around and things "look" ok, my mind says it doesn't really matter. I've never been this way before--I've always been one to scrub down the counters and floors on a regular basis even if they looked perfectly fine---because they NEED it. Do you get back to acting somewhat like the person you were at some point or not?
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