Hi everyone. Thought I'd share with you how my first meeting went yesterday. There were six other people there. I was the youngest. The most interesting thing I learned is why I've been struggling so much the past few weeks. We were given a "timeline" so to speak of the grief process. I'm in my third month since Don died and here's what it said: "The three month point is a particularly challenging time for many grieving persons. Visitors have gone home, cards and calls have pretty much stopped coming in, and most of the numbness has worn off. Well meaning family and friends who do not understand the grieving process may pressure the grieving person to get back to normal. The grieving person is just beginning the very painful task of understanding what this loss really means. We begin the difficult task of understanding that our loss is REAL. As our numbness wears off, we begin to realize what the loss is going to mean to us. This explains why many bereaved persons feel worse after a few months have gone by. The reality of ths loss starts to sink in. Part of us may still be looking for our deceased loved one to come back into our life again. We begin some of our HARDEST grieving at a point when the support we got immediately after the death has tapered off." And folks, it does help to be in a group of people who are experiencing exactly what you are. And it also helps that there are people there who are further into their grief who can offer insight and hope. I'll be going back. Sorry this is so long.
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