I was married 22 years to my husband. He was married before and lost his wife 3 years before we were married. He had 3 kids...when we met in the Navy, his kids were.. 15years(boy), 6years(girl), 4 years(boy).. I never had to deal with an ex wife, but had a lot of emotional baggage with the husband and kids, but they weren't aware of it.. Anyway he had 2 boys ourselves. I raised the kids together and all the same. My family was very excepting of his kids also. The daughter just clung to me and I loved it.. DId my husband manage things the way I would have? No not really...Anyway...We had r ups and downs, but I feel I did a great job and I always hear that from others...And we were a different race on top of it all..He was a wonderful provider, but stubborn and had lots of pride..So on in July of 2007 he had a sore throat for about a year and kept saying it was allergies well finally went to doc and he had a mass showing on his left lung,,, long story short he had lung cancer, stage 4, then it traveled to his brain,, doc told me get house in order that we would have 4 months.. Our older son was married with 1 child. Our daughter was planning her 2nd marriage with one daughter. Our other son just graduated as from college, then we our 2 boys, 1 in college, 1 in High School. So I took care of him at home with Hospice and I really got no support from his family. I have never been so focused, but so exhausted at the same time. So he passed away on Nov 27, 2007. I felt like I was in a coma..... His family has had nothing to do with me since he died, but just to ask about $$$$, or to make a move on me. Our daughter had her wedding in Aug 08 and had our boys in the wedding and invited everyone she could but me. I opened up to her so much before her dad died and said I needed your help and support when dad passes.. She never said a word.. I had caught her cheating on her first husband and confronted her, this happen in 05, because I was becoming the mom of our granddaughter not the grandma... She wont say one word to my face and acts ok,, but the minute yr back is turned she talks a lot and she does to everyone...I have never been so hurt and lost and alone..I also buried my mom in 03 of the same thing...cancer... I had 28 days with her. This was the first time I ever watch someone die. Anyway I am at home with my son 18 and find it hard to be alone at times.. then i cry every so often
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