The other day, a friend asked me why I had a memorial service for Jeff (she had just come from a funeral and said she didn't want anything when she died.) Anyway, she asked if it was a matter of "closure" for me. I told her it never occured to me not to have a celebration of Jeff's life - that he and I had actually written some of our wishes down and I tried to comply with what he wanted...But re: "closure"......no such thing as far as I'm concerned. Stupid word and stupid concept - much like "moving on" and "getting over it". I never expect to have "closure" around losing my love - I'm just trying to survive and get through one day at a time (to coin a phrase...) Am I alone in this?
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