September 29th will be our 36th wedding anniversary. This is the 2nd one without my husband. Dean passed away December 21,2007. He had lung cancer. I still wear my wedding rings. I also wear his behind mine and have since he lost so much weight he could no longer wear it. I can't even think of not wearing them. I miss my husband very much. I still feel married, this is still our anniversary. I know what to expect this anniversay. No one will call or come by to see how I am doing. To mention our anniversary that would be to difficult for them. What about me? Do they think maybe if they don't call or come by the day will pass and I might not realize what day it is? In the past years my three sisters would call to wish us a happy anniversay. I know it's hard, people don't know what to say. They don't have to say anything just call or come by. I will know they are thinking of me on our special day. Our anniversary and my husbands birthday (which is coming up and is the same day as my brother inlaws) are very special days to me. To let them go by as if they never exsisted is very hurtful. Am I being unreasonable to feel this way? I still love my husband and it is still our anniversary.....
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