I hope not to offend anyone with this question, but I feel like my friends here at DS would be willing to help me with this. I know many of us have lost our loved ones to a sudden heart attack, what I would like to know is how many of you had autopsys performed. When I found my husband at home and the paramedics came they asked what types of medicines he was taking. He was on meds for high blood pressure and high cholesterol but both were being controlled and were in the normal range. The paramedics contacted the coroner by phone and the coroner said he was not requiring an autopsy because of the circumstances and the meds he was on. They said it was up to me if I wanted an autopsy or not. Being in shock and disbelief, I was not in a condition to think rationally and quickly enough to weigh the options. My kids were with me but all I could think of was that my husband probably wouldn't have wanted all that done to his body, after all he was gone and it wouldn't help to bring him back. Now I wonder if I made the right decision. I don't know if he had a heart problem that may have been genetically passed to my children and I don't know exactly what happened to him. I don't know if I would do it any different but it's still something I wonder about. Thanks for your replys.
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