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a dream of my husband

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at last I have had a GOOD dream of my husband - always, these last years, he has sort of been around, but in a weird way and unavailable, or we have been having rows or this or that. But last night, in the dream, I was feeling terribly terribly sad about the years, in our fifties, which were such brilliant years - the richest years of our relationship - all round GOOD. I was in bed, in the dream, crying about these years and suddenly there was John, standing at the end of the bed looking down lovingly at me. He came and lay down beside me cuddling me protectively. Then suddenly the dream ended - I am crying still writing this.

I have almost been feeling that my husband has been cross with me about something or other as I havnt had a dream when he has been really really there with me, being the kind loving man he always was..

I wonder if any of you have had similar experiences, this has been incredibly important to me. During our thirties, we had terrible troubles following the birth of our third son, who died at that time and since my husbands death I have not been able to really forgive myself for this time.......so now, perhaps, I feel he has forgiven me a little, I do hope so....
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my hubby died just over 6 months ago.We had been married 43 years and were so close.I had a couple of horrid dreams but recently I feel he was with me and woke up feeling really content.I too am from GBR.
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Oh Cathrynn... you have said before how busy you have been for a long time..... I think that now you are letting go of other stuff..... now the dreams, and John is telling you in your sadness that he loves you and cares so much for you, he is still the kind, loving man he was. I dont think he has been cross with you, you have opened up recently to allow him to come to you.
Yes I have had a dream... it was very loving and very explicit!
I too have sometimes wondered if Peter is angry at me for things that happened in the past, the turmoils of married life.... but I dont think so, I think they can now see a "bigger picture" where they are. hugz, jazzy
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thank you so much both of you, and fantail, yes, you are most likely right about that...it was such a comforting dream & I am so glad I had a good one at last......I hope they can see the bigger picture..well, of course they can!....
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Sounds like some healing is going on for you. I am brought to tears just reading this. I also long for that forgiveness.
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I've had dreams of my husband, who passed away January 23. They weren't exactly pleasant, but I think it was from a guilt that I've had that I couldn't "save" him. I get much better sudden feelings of his closeness when I am awake.
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P.S., I did forget about the couple of dreams I had where he seemed closer to me. In one of them he was talking about November, and this month my mother has become more ill than before and other things have happened.
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yes, Sue, I can get feelings of his closeness when I am awake as well - but was so glad of this one really comforting one. Maybe I will have another..*smiling*.....how intriguing that he talked about November...wow! a message to you and I suspect he is there helping you and your mother....xxx
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God bless you for having a good dream . I lost my husband 3 and half months ago and no dreams at all of him and I too wander if he is angry at me for things like others mention marriage life the way he went but if had to leave this earth I feel I gave it my all to make it easy for him. I hope and pray for a good dream anytime would be real nice. I feel his presents but a good dream such as yours would be most rewarding for me. May God stay with you and keep blessing you over and over.
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So far all my dreams are of him being there but unavailable, as in he was cheating on me or breaking up with me or something and I can never get to him to hold him and get him to take me back! I'm always chasing him! I hate the desperate, discouraging feeling of wanting to hold somebody so bad and knowing that it will never happen!
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I lost my dear in May and have yet to dream of him! I ask him all the time to come to me, and he has given me signs, but he hasn't chosen a dream yet. His cousin dreamed of him early on, but coiuldn't remember it. All my life, I have had trouble remembering my dreams - he was the one who dreamed so vividly and often. I still want him to come to me in a dream...
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Usually these dreams are vivid and we remember them, not like the ordinary dreams that we have all the time and dont remember. When you have one you will know.
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I had a dream of my partner last night. It was of the Memorial service and he was there standing next to me. He did say a word, but gave me a look of approval(?). It made my whole next day nice.
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When i first lost my husband a year ago I would dream that he was alive but every night he would die a different way and no matter what I did I could not keep him from dying. Then for many months I did not dream of him at all. This December on the anniversary of his death I dreamed he came back to me and he was not really dead but he was angry with me for not calling or writing him. This happened each night for a week and these dreams were so real they felt more real than my waking life. One night he hugged me and I could feel him and smell his scent. When I woke up it broke my heart. I had to call in sick to work. I was so sad I cried all day.
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I have dreamed of my husband too.In every dream,he comes walking in the house and I have to tell him that he is dead and that he belongs in Heaven now.My mom was always in the dreams too,And i would run to her and tell her I was seeing Bruce and had to tell him to go to heaven.(she died 8 yrs ago)I used to feel uncomfortable about these dreams.I felt afraid that Bruce was lost and didnt want to leave.Until family and friends told me that it was them coming to see me and that they were in heaven together. And they just wanted me to know that they were ok.
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I used to have dreams where I would be trying to phone Cliff and I couldn't remember his number, or I would be looking for him and couldn't find him,or I would see him and he would be running away from me, or he would be ignoring me. I have had other dreams where he has told me everything will be alright and we have cuddled, but most of the dreams are that I can't find him.
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