I'm sorry for your sadness Carmen. Anniversaries can be hard and sometimes you don't know which kind of anniversaries will hit you the hardest. You are not alone. We are with you.

Mike

Carmen: So sorry for your loss. We are here for you.

thank you for your words.. on the 7th of December he would have been only 26 years old... such a great man, such a life a head of him, and yet its gone.. such sadness..and such love...

My husband died 4 days after his 56th birthday. He never opened his eyes for the last week he was alive. He had lots of life left in him believe me. Anniversaries and birthdays are so hard to deal with. For our anniversary, it would have been 9 years, a group of friends got together and sent up nine balloons with messages on them to Louis. Also, my doggie let a balloon go for his daddy. It was very moving and you know it made me feel better to do that than to sit and let that day go by without doing something "happy" for us. Now dealing with the holidays is another story. I can't wait until they are over. Write anytime you want Carmen. There is much love and understanding here. Hugs to you!

Anniversaries are very difficult. I have cried through many of them. You never know what will hit you and make you cry. But remember that tears are healing. Let them flow and let them heal.
Hugs,
Becky

I feel ya! My husband passed away this October and Thanksgiving was horrible and now Christmas is coming. All I do is cry.

You will find at different times you are affected differently. The thing about grief is the crying and emotional roller coaster comes with out notice. You must do different things on those days that would make you smile. This year on my husbands birthday we put up our tree. This is the first time we ever had a tree up on his birthday. For I believed we should celbrate his life. Yes, he was so young, sorry to hear of your sadness. May you be able to celebrate some how his life on that day. Maybe even write him a letter. Hugs.

I did do a little something.. I called his sister and we talked about him, and laughed about stuff he did or would have done.. I wanted to call his dad, but I always cry when I talk to his dad so I just talked to his sister.... I miss him soo sooo much... I still cant believe he is gone... although he is always with me.. I still dont have him here... he had so much life ahead of him.

The day before my husband's service was our 6th wedding anniversary. I was able to spend time alone with him in a private viewing that evening. It was the last time I physically saw him and I put my anniversary card to him inside his leather jacket which he was cremated in. I do not have any concept of what our 7th anniversary will be like. But I will be forever grateful for the opportunity to have spent our 6th together.

My heart is sore for you. Yesterday was just a day for me...not an anniversary or anything. But for some reason, I had a very emotional day - after several weeks of being on a relatively even keel. No idea what caused it, but I cried pretty much all day and evening. I read some of my grief books and a friend called - and we cried - and I feel calmer this morning. I think I my have been rushing things and pushing my feelings down - I know I have made a conscious effort to stay really busy in these past weeks around the holidays. Bless you - and all of us.