I am a member of an O A group in Vancouver WA and I am looking for some ideas on how to handle Christmas, family and depression which all come together in a blend of me wanting to go to the food. There are the food pushers and the potlucks at church, how to be social without feeling pressure to eat. Christmas was on my fourth step and has been full of memories of depression and being stuck places that were unpleasant. My mom passed away this February and this will add to the stress that I already put on myself. I know about self-fulfilling prophecies and setting myself for failure. Being bipolar and having all the temptation right in front of me added to lack of light and mood swings makes Christmas a stressful time of year. The TV hasn't ruined Thanksgiving (yet) but the constant songs and the cheery attitude that people say that we are "supposed" to have drive me crazy.