This is my first post and I am writing because i am confused about my spouse's situation. My husband and I are newly weds and i love him more than anything. He has been the greatest gift ever sent to me. He is absolutely my best friend and the greatest person i know. I knew he played wow way before we met, but only in the last few months has it become obsessive and compulsive. We began to argue more than we ever had before, which rarely happened, we almost never used to argue. He became defensive, irritable, and restless. I tried to express my concern, but unfortunately he had to fall and make his own mistake before he realized what kind of person he was becoming. Because it's true, a game can change you, or at least bring out different, negative sides of a person. Anyway, he decided to quit after he made this mistake. I supported him and never rubbed his faults in his face. i knew he needed my love and positive support and i gave it to im always enforcing that everything would be okay, and i thought it would be. Sadly, his decision to quit only lasted 3 weeks. He says that he feels defeated by the game, that he must conquer it to prove to himself that he can do it...whatever that means. I don't approve and we had a big argument about it. I forced him to get off and he became upset. He accused me of wanting to control him. I just want to protect him, and maybe i went about it the wrong way. so, then i thought that perhaps i should support him in his decision, i should believe in him. it's only been a couple of days, but i just can't stand watching him play the game, click the mouse, talk on his vent chat room. i just hate the fact that the game has power over him and that after everything that has happened, he can't walk away and let go. I don't know whether to give him tough love and tell him to quit the game, or to let him play while i clench my teeth and cringe at the sound of each click. I just don't know what to do.
does anybody have any suggestions? I'd greatly appreciate the help!!