My husband and I just recently celebrated our 6 year wedding anniversary. As excited as I am that we have made it this far, the past 3-4 years have been less than ideal. He plays Star Wars Galaxies. He started playing when it first came out and has been addicted ever since then. About one year ago I had enough. I left him (if only for a few days) and gave him the option of divorce or counseling. We began marriage counseling and I really saw a difference in him. Well, like all the other times I gave him an ultimatum about his playing, he resorted back to his old habits eventually. Our last counseling session he walked out of because he was pissed that we were talking about his gaming. He won't admit he has a problem. When I print out literature on gameing addiciton, he throws it away. He has no idea the severity of the situation and always says that I am being controling and irrational. All of our fights revolve around his game playing. I told him in the past, if you keep up with your responsbilities/chores and give me the proper attention then playing the game would not be an issue. But, it (he) is ruining everything. I don't know how to approach the subject with him because he always gets so defensive and mad, but I want him to quit the game completely. If he says no, I think I am going to file for divorce. He is 36 years old. Time to get his shit together. He hates his job, but won't look for one cause he spends all night playing his game, he is tired "after a hard days work" but won't really admit that it's because he stays up all night playing his game, he ruins every event we have to go to by making us late (thus resulting in a fight) because he is "just finishing up" some stupid thing on his game. I could go on and on. Reality is that I want more, I want my man to be there for me. I want to have KIDS!! I tried, and I feel like I am the only one that kept trying. He tried until I (and our counselor) was off his back. Then he went back to his old ways. How should I tell him I want a divorce? It is so sad. We finally have our dream house, we have three dogs (our kids). It just seems so hard. But I'm tired of being miserable. And I can't live the rest of my life like this. Any advice?
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