
Video Game Addiction Support Group
Game addiction is a form of psychological addiction related to a compulsive use of computer and video games. People suffering from this form of addiction may experience intense cravings to play the game and may also suffer symptoms of withdrawal when they stop playing the game. Meet with friendly, supportive people sharing their experiences with Video Game Addiction.

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My husband used to be severly addicted to WoW--before we were married. He really compromised our relationship. I told him I wouldn't marry him unless the game was gone. That was last May. He finally got rid of it only to redownload it a few months later. Those months without the game were the best of my life! We hardly argued at all. Then I found out I was pregnant--with twins! So he got rid of the game a second time, knowing that when the boys came, there wouldn't be time for that. Now, our twins are almost 3 months old.
About three weeks ago, my husband began acting weird. I kept asking him how he felt, because I know this is a stressful time, and if he needed some time to himself or needed to get out of the house a bit. I really tried to get him to open up to me but he told me everything was fine.
And then I find that he had downloaded the game again. He now says that he hide it and lied because I am too controling and won't let him do what he wants to do. He doesn't understand my fear resulting from his previous addiction to the very same game--because he now says it was only a problem before because I made it one.
I feel like I don't know him. I'm scared of losing him to this game again, and I can't with these two beautiful babies. I even threatened to leave, and he refuses to get rid of it. What would be the best way for me to handle this? I already made an appointment for counseling, that isn't until next week though.
Please help. I just don't know what to do.
About three weeks ago, my husband began acting weird. I kept asking him how he felt, because I know this is a stressful time, and if he needed some time to himself or needed to get out of the house a bit. I really tried to get him to open up to me but he told me everything was fine.
And then I find that he had downloaded the game again. He now says that he hide it and lied because I am too controling and won't let him do what he wants to do. He doesn't understand my fear resulting from his previous addiction to the very same game--because he now says it was only a problem before because I made it one.
I feel like I don't know him. I'm scared of losing him to this game again, and I can't with these two beautiful babies. I even threatened to leave, and he refuses to get rid of it. What would be the best way for me to handle this? I already made an appointment for counseling, that isn't until next week though.
Please help. I just don't know what to do.
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You have no way to reach them cause your not first. Say all the truth you want and point out all the real facts you want he will still play.
Only options none are good. Live with it play with him and throw your life away as well. I did not think so thats his wet dream.
Leave him kick him out get ride of him and not support their behavior. Every day you do not take this stance you enable them to keep playing. You got married to have a partner in life. He is not he will ride on your coat tails for ever as long as you let him. i bet he is real nice to you some times real nice. then he has sex then wow hes back to gameing feel used? Well you were and will continue to be so. So the choice is yours be ok with him loveing himself first or not. Be ok with teaching your children your boys that it's ok for daddy and them when they grow up to do what ever the hell they please and give the left overs to the family.
I am sorry but blunt is all i have left. We don't deserve our wives were broken and only we can fix ourselves not even with you crying in the door way pleading like my wife once done. I am so ashamed i mocked her and pushed her out of the room cause she got in front of my screen. I wish i could go back instead of playing every second i could. I wish i would have planed great dinners our well thought out dates with tons of surprises. Left notes of how I loved her and how I wanted her. Kissed for hours so much so wel feel asleep after hours of kissing and never had intercourse but some how felt even more satisfied as we drifted of to sleep in each others arms. No this will not happen for you till they hit rock bottom and have to stare at them selves in the mirror and hate what they see. With you there he will never feel that low.
I am sorry. You know this is true and what lies ahead is scary and dark. I am hear for you should the next steps be hard and need a shoulder. I offer you what my ex never had. A friend who cares and understands this all.
I've tried many ways over the years to get him to prioritize and take responsibility for his obsession, and with a lot of trial and error, we've finally found a method that seems to be working for the most part, and has been for about 1.5 years now.
I realized first of all that his enjoyment of the game doesn't mean he doesn't love me. And truth be told, of all the avenues he could pursue in recreation and entertainment, at least this one keeps him home instead of going out to a bar, pool hall, clubs, or whatever. He's home with his family, and the expense of a yearly subscription to DAoC is cheap compared to what he could be spending on recreation. So I decided to get my own subscription and join him ingame sometimes. And I'm glad I did that, because I do enjoy playing, but now I can talk to my husband about a common subject we both like, and he seems to be quite happy and proud that his wife plays with him. And best of all, he seems to be treating me with new respect and a renewed level of friendship, as well as being his wife. He's told me he likes being able to talk to me about different things in the game. And now he's trying harder to prioritize life and not be logged on all the time. I'd made a request of him to please not log onto DAoC until 2 hours after he comes home, so that we could have some "our time together" to eat or watch tv or do things we need to get done, or whatever. We compromised in that he understands my need to have him outside the game, and that I understand the game and how much fun it can be, and will give him basically uninterrupted time ingame, as long as he doesn't procrastinate on real life things he needs to do. And he's also agreed to log off and come to bed by a certain time (a half-hour window), and with only a couple of exceptions, has stuck to that.
So by learning to play the game myself, and actually enjoying it, I was able to relate to my husband on another level that he responded to and appreciated. I love that he shares game stories or news with me, and he loves that I like talking to him about it. And that has led to us finally being able to talk about other things -- non game-related -- in normal conversations also. Having the common online game interest opened a door and we can now talk about anything, and he really appreciates that I understand why he likes his game. And because of our compromises which includes me giving him some nag-free time to play, he in turn shows his appreciation by lessening the time he's actually playing now.
Another cool thing? I've gotten pretty good at DAoC myself now, and when I do play, I can play either in his group or do something else ingame, and we're both happy with the arrangement. :)
I wanted to post a link here to a site that I think many of you would find helpful or at least interesting in understanding this role of MMORPG game addiction, and some possible things that might help. It's called The Daedalus Project, and has been ongoing for several years, and it's purpose is to study the world of the MMORPG gamer, to understand everything about the world, and the people who play it. There are many studies of why some players become obsessed or addicted, and the effects this has on their families and occupations in the 'real world'. There are a great many different articles on different aspects of that world that you might find useful. Here is a link to one specifically being talked about in this thread:
http://www.nickyee.com/daedalus/archives/001544.php
And that link goes to an article titled: Understanding and Dealing with Gaming Problems: A Q&A with a Therapist. A therapist speaks to the problems of addicted gamers, the wives and families of those who have an addiction, and much more. I think you would find it at interesting read. You may find some suggestions that could help you, you'll understand better about why someone gets addicted, and there are some do's and don'ts for wives/girlfriends/SO's who are trying to get their significant other to stop playing as much. It's worth reading.
Last why do I care so much? I will tell you why. My ex-wife and I was in a world a shit and no one helped us at all. I use to be part of a church. I was active and did my best to help others. When we told them what was going on in our life. They pressured us to make peace when we were hurting so badly and to forgive the prep. Mean while our life was ruined and had all kinds of damage from what he did to us. They wanted us to wipe the slate clean. So he gets to ruin our lives then not have to help restore us to where we were. I hate this injustice and know the pain of being harmed and having no one care. Even worst then not caring adding more pain on top.
Finally I grew up in a tough naberhood as a child fought a lot. I know I lost plenty of them. Today the only thing back then that still hurts me was the words. They are powerful and you hurt me.
Last but not lest is I have one to testify on my behalf. My ex-wife is here. Her handle is Wonderwoman. So I have someone who knows me deeply here. Thanks again for making me feel sick to my guts.
He has been through this problem and is working on rebuilding his life and he is sharing his advice.
I agree that we should all be wary of predators but I don't think it is necessary to blackball this guy when all he is trying to do is help....