Okay....So I have this problem with people thinking that we "CHOSE" to be depressed, or we chose to be what ever, as far as Mental Health is concerned. Although I do realize we can chose certain things, I don't believe for one minute we chose to be Mentally Ill. We can chose not to take our meds, like a diabetic could chose not to take insulin, But to say the depression/mania in itself is a choice. I don't think so. If that were the case it would not respond to meds, People would not kill themselves to "stop the pain" if they were "wanting it". I know I have to fight like hell every day to act okay, even if I'm not. I don't want my kids to see me cry, or my family to worry, I want them to see the good, not the sad. Sometimes it's so bad I can't hide it. Then I feel guilty and hate myself because society says I should know how to "Chose not to be so fucked up". Well, If I could chose a state of mind, It sure as hell wouldn't be depression or anxiety. Give me mania any day!!! (Not the over the top mean/crazy mania, But the oh so happy lets go to the mall mania) Think about it.... If some one you loved died. And you were sitting there crying, and some one came up to you and said. Hey, you are just chosing to be sad, and misserable. Just change your mind-set and be happy. How stupid does that sound??? If you are sad you are sad and I don't care what you tell yourself. I hear a lot of people telling other people HOW to help themselves out of something they have no clue about, because they have never been in that exact situation. If they had, they would not say Hey, Just stop it, it's just a choice. I have shot myself, I'm not alive right now because of my great attitude. But when I am not depressed I can be the most possitive person on the planet. If you really want to help some one out of the pits of hell, Don't tell them they are chosing to be there. IT DOES NOT HELP!!! Try vallidating that person, and their pain, You don't have to understand, Most people don't. Just be there for them, LISTEN to them. Don't judge them and make them feel even worse. I know I pissed a lot of people off today with my rants, But ya know what....I can't be the only one who feels this way. Especially on this site. So if someone has a problem...BRING IT!!!! I'm pissed off!!! And if you agree with anything I am saying, Tell me, because I would really like to know just how "rare" my thinking is.
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