I am a mother of 6 ages 6,5,4,3 and 18 mo. old twins. All and all I can proudly say that I have terrific kids I get comments all the time about how well behaved they are, but we are a large family with large needs the most of which is discipline, and getting across the same message with differnt tactics for different ages. I am constantly getting well how come he didn't and have become blue repeating because he/she is older or younger and has diffent rules. On top of everything the twins are climbers. I mean climbers on anything and everything. I must tell them no 30 times a day and pull them down and try to redirct their attention to other things. It is needless to say not working because as soon as you talk to another child or heaven forbid go to the bathroom they are right back up (usually giggling). Worst than all of is the fact that the other children love the twins so much that they cater to their every whim. They will give up toys, food, drink, seats you name it, to the rowdy twosome if the twins want it, or should I say more accurately demand it. This brings me to the point of my story and my latest dilema. The tantrums have begun, and not just at me. They have been catered to at every step to the point that any incling of not getting their way causes an earsplitting shriek like I have never in my life heard before followed by a thrown toy, they have also begun to fight with eachother, and they bite. They are so use to getting their way that they demand things from eachother and are shocked they don't get it so they'll take it and the biting begins. Thankfully I have stopped them from hurting eachother but when I get between them I get bit. None of my older four ever threw a tantrum or bit. My 3 year old had some sensory problem but he went to therapy for 2.5 years and is fine now and he still didn't attack his siblings. I am just at my wits end. They are only 18 mo. old so time out does not work, ignoring it causes them to throw things, redirct causes me to get bit and they don't calm down. So far, I try not to notice to shriek and take whatever toy is causing the arguing and tell the older kids not to give them whatever they need but non of it seems to work. Any help would be a life saver. Thank you
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