My DH and I have been TTC for 2 years. During this time we've had 2 M/C. Lately I've been very sad all the time. He is also feeling worn out by wanting a family so badly but not getting it as quickly as we wanted. I know that lately my depression is effecting him. He hates that he can't make me happy like he used to. We moved to another state to be closer to my family. So now he is here without any of his friends to hang out with so he's always on his cell talking to them. The problem is, last week I found some text messages and pictures from one of his female friends. I've never liked her but DH has been friends with her for about 6 years. I've always trusted him and never thought that he would do anything to jepordize our marriage but what I found scarred me! When I confronted him about it he acted like it was nothing. He said she's a crazy and not right in the head and while yes the pictures she sent him were inappropriate and disrespectful to our marriage, I shouldn't be getting this upset over it. I should have no reason to think anything would ever happen between them. He said he loves me and only me. He said she was having problems with her marriage and she asked him for advice on how to spice things up??!! He also mentioned that since he lives away from his freinds he is lonely and she is the only one he can talk to about certain things??? Why can't he talk to me? In ten years I've never thought this would happen. We've been the couple who doesn't fight, who are still madly in love with one another. This guy who I thought would never hurt me, did! I asked him, how could you do this to me? We are trying to have a baby. He went for his sperm analysis on Friday. I go for my testing in two weeks. He just keeps reasuring me that he would never do that to me. He's upset that I had to see those things and think that happened but it didn't. I am close with his sister so she is the only one I could talk to. She looked at the evidence and freaked out too! We both came to the conclusion that nothing happened, but what he did is totally wrong. She talked to him and told him in her opinion he's lucky I didn't kick him out. She told him just because you didn't physically cross a line with her doesn't mean you didn't cross a line in your marriage! She told me it sounded like his ego enjoyed the attention. It made him feel good that another women was giving him attention. This sucks. Hopefully his sister got through to him. But, what do I do now? Has anyone's DH done this to them? Should I try to keep going with the testing and TTC if he's not even going to put 100% into it. What happens when we have a crying baby to take care of? That will really test us. He obviously is taking his frustration of not being able to give me a baby and talking about it with another women and not to me. Will he do it again? This hurts me to the core. I don't know what to do? I've asked him all these questions but his answers just bring up more questions.
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