the ones that matter dont mind, and the ones that mind dont matter....

moonnegoddess, you are exactly right!!

Yes this is true. Most people will accept something like this. I've had to tell a few people lately in my own fears of them finding it on their own, it's easier after they know whether you still cover up or not.

Oh no, this should not be why you cannot be together. Nobody is perfect and he probably has secrets and things he's afraid to share about himself too. Just like you would accept him for him, he would and should except you for you :)

I agree with Lulla.

I'm not sure how old you are...

One thing that I have learned over time is to except myself (and love myself) the way I am...that includes acknowledging my faults, and loving myself in spite of them.

My husband, my friends, and my family all know about my disorder.

When someone truly cares about you...not the physical you, but the essence of you...nothing else will matter.

IF you share your disorder with him (no one says you have to...use your own discression when sharing) and he does not accept you consider yourself lucky! You don't need negativity in your life.

Surround yourself with positive supportive people.

More importantly become strong yourself.

It's a daily struggle.

We've got to put those boxing gloves on and get in there and fight!

I check out postsecret.com a lot. One of the quotes from the guy that started it is, "Everybody has at least one secret that would break your heart, and if we all understood that about each other, the world would be a better place." That's true. I completely understand what you're talking about, because I have been there. Wanting to be close, but terrified of being discovered and branded a freak. This condition is so unpublicized, that I think all of us that have it have felt ostracized, and like that we were the only ones in the world. Just knowing that you're not the only one helps.

You know what is wierd, I have been w/my husband since I was 15 years old. I am thirty now, and we are still together. He knows about my condition, but he has never seen me pull my hair. He has never seen my bald scalp either. I am too afraid he wont ever look at me the same way.

You deserve to find love even if you pull your hair. Anyone who can't see past that or accept you the way you are is not worth your time. It took me a long time to understand that.

I completely know how you feel though. Even though my husband knows about my trich I still cringe when he puts his hands through my hair. Like emarie77, my husband knows about it and is very supportive but I still have not let him look at my spots. I also feel that he will never view me the same way...and that is a hurdle I need to cross soon. Anyways, I wish the best to you and hope you figure out the best step to take with your guy.

God I hate that too, I am only 16 so I can't say much but I have never had a boyfriend before because of my situation. All the people I meet don't understand and treat me different. I hope I can find somebody who understands me and dosn't back away.

I understand how you feel exactly, ever since a boyfriend about a year ago made fun of me and criticized me after we broke up about it I have been scared to tell anyone I get feelings for. I then finally told the guy I really liked because I wear a wig, a good one. Its hard to notice so when we were kissing it accidentally slipped a little and then I knew I had to explain. After I had finished he took my face into his hands and told me that I am beautiful to him no matter what and that I couldnt help what I do and that nothing will change how he thinks about me. Trust me don't be afraid.

wow, that was moving. i really think you should just tell him because he should like you for who you are. i know people have probably said that but like seriously you should just tell him. unless its like not a serious relationship. then dont tell him

if they are good enough for you they won't care. my b/f and I were together for like 2 weeks when i told him because he kept getting close to my face and i'd pull away as well. If he sees me going to pull he holds my hands and he asks me about once a week how i am doing. So start to accept yourself a little bit and realize that soon you will find someone who accepts you the same way