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My employer informed me today that he is probably going to let me go due to my transitioning.
He did not finalize it. I think he was giving me an opportunity to convince to not let me go, but I was not prepared and was not able to articulate well my arguments for keeping my job.
After 20 years....
I knew it was a risk, and tried to keep myself prepared should it happen but it really hurts
:-(
He did not finalize it. I think he was giving me an opportunity to convince to not let me go, but I was not prepared and was not able to articulate well my arguments for keeping my job.
After 20 years....
I knew it was a risk, and tried to keep myself prepared should it happen but it really hurts
:-(
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He said a lot of things.
I have know the man since I was a child
There are no protections where I live.
Since you know this man from the time you were a child perhaps, you could address his concerns, instead of giving him a peace of your mind. I know it's tempting but you want to keep your job so maybe a bit of TG awareness towards him maybe in order.
Ask him why he'd think that, why is he so sure that it'll look bad on the company. You may even tell him that firing you may actually do more harm to his company than keeping you because it'll show how unprofessional the company is and who wants to do business with a company who thinks so little of its employees, specially after 20 years of service.
Explain to him that this is not the 1950's and people these days are very aware of TG individuals and you frankly do not see how this can look bad on the company. Talk about how much you value him, that you've known him since you were a child, speak to his heart not his mind. Address his concerns ask him if that's the only reason he is letting you go, make him see how petty and irrational he is being without coming out and saying it.
I had a situation like that happen to me years ago, all I said was, "Let me get this right. You are in fact letting go of the most productive employee you have, the one you go to when you want something done to your standards, the one you can rely and depend on, the one whom you trust to leave behind when you need go somewhere and go peacefully knowing that when you get back, the place will be intact and much more. And you are doing of all this because I am doing something in my personal life, mind you, that has nothing to do with you?" He said he'd think about it and he'll get back to me. He thought about it and I won. Why? Because I addressed how important I was to him and what he was relinquishing because of some idiotic fear.
Hope this helps,
Wolf
If in the end, you lose the fight, you cannot say you did not try to salvage it.
I don't intend to go off on him out of anger anger.
I was a bit blindsided by the conversation - trying to address his concerns I think I failed :(
Will see if I get another opportunity or not. I don't know. I have no doubt that firing me will do harm to the company, it will most likely shut the place down as I have been the only sales rep for a long time and the relationships with all those clients are not going to be easy for him to hold onto. Many of them are sympathetic to my transition.
I'm terribly sorry this is happening, I wish there was something I could do that would be mind-blowingly awesome and make things better.
I hope he turns around and comes to his senses.
call: 6468629396 and ask for Michael Silverman.