what are his reasons for letting you go?

that sucks what state arte you in as a few do have protections for us.

Theresa I'm so sad and angry to hear this. Please stay in faith and trust, and I will do the same for you. Hold your beautiful woman face high. When God slams a door, he always opens a window. You will always have a friend in me. xoxo

He believes that my transition is having a negative impact on the company, and he is not comfortable with me.

He said a lot of things.

I have know the man since I was a child

There are no protections where I live.

and what is really pissing me is off is that I am not even living full time yet!

so his only reason is because your a transexual and thats it? boy thats pathetic...if you do leave...be sure to give him a piece of your mind befor you do!

atpeace,


Since you know this man from the time you were a child perhaps, you could address his concerns, instead of giving him a peace of your mind. I know it's tempting but you want to keep your job so maybe a bit of TG awareness towards him maybe in order.

Ask him why he'd think that, why is he so sure that it'll look bad on the company. You may even tell him that firing you may actually do more harm to his company than keeping you because it'll show how unprofessional the company is and who wants to do business with a company who thinks so little of its employees, specially after 20 years of service.

Explain to him that this is not the 1950's and people these days are very aware of TG individuals and you frankly do not see how this can look bad on the company. Talk about how much you value him, that you've known him since you were a child, speak to his heart not his mind. Address his concerns ask him if that's the only reason he is letting you go, make him see how petty and irrational he is being without coming out and saying it.

I had a situation like that happen to me years ago, all I said was, "Let me get this right. You are in fact letting go of the most productive employee you have, the one you go to when you want something done to your standards, the one you can rely and depend on, the one whom you trust to leave behind when you need go somewhere and go peacefully knowing that when you get back, the place will be intact and much more. And you are doing of all this because I am doing something in my personal life, mind you, that has nothing to do with you?" He said he'd think about it and he'll get back to me. He thought about it and I won. Why? Because I addressed how important I was to him and what he was relinquishing because of some idiotic fear.

Hope this helps,
Wolf


If in the end, you lose the fight, you cannot say you did not try to salvage it.

Thanks wolf

I don't intend to go off on him out of anger anger.

I was a bit blindsided by the conversation - trying to address his concerns I think I failed :(

Will see if I get another opportunity or not. I don't know. I have no doubt that firing me will do harm to the company, it will most likely shut the place down as I have been the only sales rep for a long time and the relationships with all those clients are not going to be easy for him to hold onto. Many of them are sympathetic to my transition.

I am sorry to hear about this. Try Wolf's suggestion, it can't hurt to at least try.

Hugs to you.
I'm terribly sorry this is happening, I wish there was something I could do that would be mind-blowingly awesome and make things better.
I hope he turns around and comes to his senses.

If he tries this with you.. don't take this lying down sweety, you have every right to be there at work, try to make ends meet, just as the next person does! You transitioning, doesn't have nothing to do with your work, if your employer goes head with his decision, then it is an act of gender identity discrimination. http://www.transgenderlegal.org/
call: 6468629396 and ask for Michael Silverman.

yesterday and today things have been tense but he has not talked to me of the issue again. Still have a job for now. Looking at my options.