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so i've been dating this guy for about 5 months now and things are going really well. I really care about him and hes always there for me. I think eventually i want him to be the one i loose it to.. but im just sared he wont fit because ive tried putting things 'up there' to see how far it could go and it feels like a wall that would be reeallyy painful to break.. if it even could ever break. ahh helppp? whats going to happen?

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I totally understand what you mean...the prospect of losing your virginity can seem very scary at first...however, if he truly loves you and you have a trusting, healthy relationship, you should be able to trust him and talk to him about taking things very slowly at first. Try not to be frightened, if that's possible; sex with the right person really is beautiful...it just takes a bit of getting used to.

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I had the same problem I was soo worried about the first time. The most important thing is to know hes the right guy, This only happens once in your life you want it to be somthing to remember. Another thing that is inmportant is Trust and just Relax , If you can trust this guy it should be easy to relax. Talk to him about it there is nothing wrong with being a little scared chances are if you tell him you worried/scared he will be gentle. And as for pain , Im not gonna lie it hurts a little bit but not as much as I thought it would . Communication is key if you can remember that everything will be fine .

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I was with my bf for yr n a half before we had sex, but we did many other things before... I was v.scared too and I understand what you are going through... but trust me it's great when the time comes, but make sure you are ready first... and if this guy really loves you he will wait as long as you feel you need to! But I advise you do other stuff first for a while. ie oral sex n stuff. x

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I was afraid about it being painful my first time too. It wasn't exactly comfortable, but it didn't hurt like I had expected to. Make sure you feel totally comfortable with this guy if you do decide to have sex with him, so that you're okay with asking him to slow down or stop if it's too uncomfortable. There are plenty of other fun things to do though!

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well.... it was painful for me the first couple of times but if you really want to you should talk to him about it and makesure he knows to take it nice and easy. i wish i had my first time.

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dont worrry about it not fitting ur pretty tight down there cuz ur a virgin but its a muscle and it'll widen up enough and he'll fit for me it hurt hella bad and every time i have sex it hurts in the beginning but i tell my boyfriend to go slow and he does but after a min it feels hella good promise have fu be safe :D

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the wall is the hymen, it will hurt alittle, but if you trust your partner, and if they care for you like you say he does, he will know to be gentle with you for the first time. tell him your alittle concerned about the first time, and if it falls into it someday to be patient

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The best thing to do is like everyone else said is to be very comfortable with him first so you can tell him to slow down . And my first time i was almost crying because i was so nervous and it does hurt a bit the first few times but it gets easier and when it does get easier believe me it stops hurting and it feels good : ), so don't worry about it , what helped me is thinking about the fact that every single girl has to go through it and might as well get through it now because you will someday , and the faster the pain is gone the better it is for you.Then you won't have to worry anymore. but make sure hes right for you and that you can talk to him and be with him comfortably first.
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