Id make a choice. Do you have any romantic feelings for the one you had sex with? Which one do you like more? Then be with that ONE person.

Are you menstruating or bleeding for another reason? If you're not menstruating you should go to your doctor, the pain while peeing could be a yeast infection or something.

As for the relationship part, I don't think you should stay with the guy you've known for the shorter while because you love the guy in cali, so it's not fair to anyone. You shouldn't keep dating the guy here just because you want to be in a relationship and are unsure if things are going to work out between the guy in cali. If you care about him at all, you'll break up with him and tell him that you need some time. You don't have to tell him about the other guy but people usually respect honesty, even if it hurts/angers/saddens them at first.
Anyway, hope this helps and goodluck :]

i bleed the first time to..quite a lot plus i couldnt walk either. It does dissappear after a day or to. The next step is to think why did you have sex with the other guy even tho your in love with another? is it because he lives in calfornia or for another reason? if you loved him so much why did you have sex with another guy... its all these things you have to think of

i lost my virginity when i was 14 ( last year)
but i have to say i didnt bleed ...
but i did have the pain ...its only natural
and dont feel bad baout only knowing him for 3-4 weeks because the man i lost it with i had just met him 20 mins before
so dont feel bad

When I was 18, which is last year, I had sex for the 1st time with someone I met on myspace. I never had anyone b4, I never been with anyone, No one really liked me but I dunno if we had sex or not because it was an experiment to see what it was like and the guy is really nice and stuff and I dunno if I had sex because he didnt put his "YOU KNOW" in all the way, I didnt let him because It hurt and I never had sex.

This sounds like the bullitain i just posted about my Best friend. If you don't love the guy than you need to tell him. It's like the guy my best friend is dating all he wants from her is sex and make outs, but he doesn't care for her from anything i've seen.If you just think the only reason ur with him is because he's your first that you should be with him, but if you love the guy in cali giv him your all.

I think you need to take a step back from both men until you are able to think clear for yourself. Right now, are you ready for a relationship? Which guy will support you and not bring you down. How did the sex happen? Relationships usually dont stem from having sex first. You should have a relationship, a meaningful one before you add sex.
Think alot about this before you make a decision. Maybe it would be better to be single for awhile then to rush into anything.

yeah I had the same problem..I bleed all day, gosh that sucks.
I think you have to make a choice. do you wanna be in a sexual relationship w/no strings attached or with someone whos going to treat you right and love you for you...

i agree with nicoleh21, just be with the person you love because sex is a deep conection between 2 people and it should be special [= and you are special so dont think that your not if you dont have sex, either way is great as long as your conforetible

well if you realy like the cali guy you should consider working it out depending on him he might just want to "work things out" cuz now he thinks he can get in your pants. then you might want to consider the other guy depending on if e wants a relationship. but either way your young and it's your right to exparimeny

oh as for what those other girls said sex is not something special to be shared with some 1 you love only. it's better with love but it can be for fun as well so please don't let others judge you your still a good girl no mater that you have sex.

I advice you to find aboy friend from close where you live. That long disdance very seldom work out. And I should forget about you made love with, unless you feel you are both love each other. You are still young, so wait for the right time.An never forget to use condoms. you don't want to get a baby that young.
Are you really in a hurry to have sex. I know it feels good. But there are other things in life that are good.
You are a good girl

hun, u said urself u dont love him. y waste ur time. i kno u may feel attached to him now after sex, but if u love the othe rguy hold on to him.

You need to decide if what you want is a physical relationship or love. You can't have both with 2 different people.

I'd take love or sex ANY day.