You do and I too hate to see the upset the main board has bestowed on so many. That is why this group and our friends here make all the difference.

People will always be mean to one another, it is a shame to see it. It is how we deal with it that sets us apart. Trying to get involved fuels mean people to be meaner. They never know how to back off.

Sunnymorn,
I am so sorry about the way this stuff stirred up things in your past. We all are open to hurt, and we have a safer haven here, with true caring people. ))))))Please(((((( take into consideration what RO said and understand that if we don't fuel that fury it may go away. I don't mean the people, but the unnecessary injustice.

That was not the only thing that got me upset about all that crap. I speak for myself in saying that my emotions have been screwed with dealing with this chronic pain thing, but I did use the ignore user button and I will not post a new topic on the main board. I will go there, but if I don't have anything positive to say, I won't say it.

Once somebody becomes a pickle they can't change back to a cucumber.

Hang in there and like RO said we are HERE.

David.

hon dont worry about it im sorry how this makes you feel hugs minnie

I know Sunny, it takes me longer than most to get over conflict and hurt feelings than most people too, and I only had one very mean sister. I've decided DS doesn't care about whole threads, just if someone pushes the abuse button. There will always be a troublemaker or two over there so just stay here with us. If we have had any problems, Tipper, irocket, and Superduck have done a great job dealing with it because I haven't detected any meanness here!

Huggin you tight.. and saying that all the baggage from our past is like a ball and chain sometimes.
There will be triggers all through life and though this is a support group, some people do get picklish and prickly too!
I feel the sorriest for those who act this way. Imagine the pain they must feel to act so mean to God's beloved children. Our main this is to show love and for those who don't know how..I wonder what they get out of life.
So just stay amongt us. We love you. Pauli

i understand, it reminds me of bullys in highschool. i just hit ignore now

SunnyMorn
First,...I am so glad to see you! You have been so very quiet lately--might this have something to do with it?

I would like to tell you what I can to help...it may be long--so please bare with me.

First: When this group was started, it was started for the same reasons that you are describing. I, as the owner of this group will NOT allow negativity to spread here. I will not allow posts to get out of line and become a "posting fest" of drama.

It is one thing to share how you feel in a non-threatening, non name calling way...such as you have done. It is a completely different thing when a post takes on it's own life and spins out of control. I will delete those posts or one of the ADMINS will. It is usually not any one person's fault per say...but just the nature of where the post has gone...it almost develops a life sometimes-in a negative way. Those will get deleted.

Second....NO ONE PERSON in this room will be mistreated by another. I will not sit idly by while accusations or negative behavior will just be allowed to "be".

Third...If someone feels that they are being mistreated...the Admins TIPPER and IROCKET are here and myself. If you can...please try and address how you feel with that person and discuss it amongst yourself in a private message setting.

If that is not possible and you are not sure--or if you feel that you are unable to speak to that person please let me or one of the ADMINS know. I will address it privately and with confidentiality as will Tipper and IRocket.

Fourth. I believe in "Loyalty to the Absent" If someone is banned from this room...I will not tolerate group--open forum posts--belittiling, harming or speaking ill of that person. Nor will questions regarding that person be discussed by me.

If someone is banned or removed for a "cooling off" period....they have been contacted. They will understand what is happening. They may not agree--but they will know. Unlike DS--where you are not sure, you get no response and you get no idea why you are "in trouble". With that being said...I will NEVER disclose WHO reported the issue. I will offer the information surrounding the issue and how to resolve it and if there is a "cooling off" period or an outright BAN. I am always open for discussion of such things and I believe in mending fences if possible.

WE ALL GET ANGRY...WE ALL GET CRANKY...WE ALL HAVE MEDICATION AND PERSONAL ISSUES THAT CAN AFFECT HOW WE RELATE TO OTHERS. This is a normal part of who we are.

Finally...I never, ever, ever want anyone to feel unsafe or unworthy here. Everyone should and is encouraged to share their frustrations, their daily struggles and things that are fun or entertaining. If you feel unsafe or unworthy here...because of the way the group is run or because of someone specific...please address it with myself or one of the admins....and they will address it with me. If it is me that someone is experiencing a hard time with...Please feel free to contact me directly--I am a big girl and I wear grown up pants.

I will listen to you and hopefully...a resolution can happen. If you are uncomfortable talking with me directly--please contact one of the admins who can address it with me. I do not want a third party
he said / she said thing to happen...but a general addressing of the issues can resolve some things. I am happy to provide my personal email address for you so that the issues can be discussed directly.

Everyone should find inspiration here, should offer inspiration and if needed...everyone who needs it can find a place to hide in the corner with a blanket and vent or cry ...we all carry keenex and bandaids for our friends in need!

Please feel safe here....please know that your friends are here to offer comfort and support . YOU and your pain, comfort, happiness and care are important here and to me. Every single person is important and a valued member in the Support and Chronic Pain group.

HUGS to you all

I would also like to add...on a side note...

That the member you mentioned made a very nice apology to Greekies and I felt that it was heartfelt. Just my opinion...but, I give her credit for that. It is up to Greekies to forgive...but the apology, I think---was a big step for her. I respect that she "owned it".

I think I understand what your saying, the onesidedness of the whole thing really upset me. And the way it was handled was like a bad joke. I'm still upset over it but I'm trying to let it go. I have noticed a certain member has been a little quieter though, so at least thats a plus.

I am sorry this whole thing happened and that it brought up issues from the past for you. I don't know how much solice this will bring, but it is my suspicion you were not the only one to receive a letter and I don't mean those who announced getting them. Remember we all love you. Hugs.

I am so sorry that you are feeling this way and that it is bringing up some things from your past. I hope that you know that you are safe here and that this is a place where you can vent your frustrations prouctively.

HUGS to you my friend and I am glad to see you... **SMILES**

I feel your pain. I was abused as a kid, my "Father", I use the term very loosely hit, kick, slaped, pushed me, he locked me in the garage in winter time and threw what ever he could at me because I was too loud one night. He told me everyday what a worthless person I am, and one time he wanted to take me way out in the country and beat the S&*^ out of me because I was rude to his idiot children, I washed him beat the snot out of his 3 year old adobpted some because he wouldn't go to sleep one night because he lost his blanket. then I was the most heavily made fun of kid and bullyed almost to death in junior high and high school. finaly I got to the breaking point and tried to kill my self twice and that never worked. Finding Jesus and my faith in him was the only thing that keep me going somedays. Now I suffered everyday in pain. so yes I know excatly how you feel when you say abuse....

LivebyFaith, My heart goes out to you. You have really been strong and I just wanted you to know that I think you are wonderful!