I have been told that death brings out the best and worst in people and that you will quickly learn who your real friends are. Two of my best friends of over 20 years one a bit closer then the other so I thought. Gena, the one who I thought would never leave my side in the most tragic time in my life did. Its like she was here but her heart wasn't. For years it has seemed like I valued the friendship more but never said anything because I thought that maybe I was just being too sensitive. But after Deven died I truly knew that she did not value it as much as I. I tried to talk to her and in the end I told her that her response would determine weather this friendship continued or ended. She said ok, a brief pause then we said bye. You see I already have forgiven her I just wanted her to ask for it. Needless to say it has been 1 week today and she has not called. I really needed her in the first few days after Deven's death and she just made excuses for why she wasn't there. Even at the funeral she barely even hugged me. Now she is pregnant, I just don't know how she could of been so cold, my worst nightmare come true and she could't just hold me while I cried. Long story a bit shorter my other friend the one I didn't expect to be my rock was. she was with us every step and out of everyone around us the first few days, she was the most comforting. Am I just being too sensitive and over reacting, or did I do the right thing by telling Gena how I felt? I guess it really doesn't matter since it appears that without saying so she has ended the friendship.
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