i am so sorry for your loss... please do not feel guilty. you did not cause your baby to die. there are millions of babies at any given moment sleeping on their tummies, and they do not die. the examiners CAN rule out suffocation. i suppose there are different signs, and they can tell the from SIDS. some sources say that sleeping on a tummy MAY contribute/trigger SIDS, however, there has to be a predisposed condition for it to be triggered. therefore, do not feel guilty. i had similar feelings myself, b/c i believe my daughter turned on her tummy that night, and could not turn back up. with time, i resolved that guilt, but not completely, and i still have all kinds of mixed feelings.

you have to be careful what you read online. there is too much misleading information about SIDS. Dr.Hannah Kinney is one of the leading researchers in this field. there is a few good SIDS foundations nationwide: CJ Foundation for SIDS, etc.

i'm here to talk to you if you need me.

Aurelia

thank you so very much. but after seeing that video it killed me cause it just made me fill like i did something wrong.

My son was sleeping on his stomach when he died and while it took me a few week I do not blame myself or my fiance for this. All 4 of my step children were stomach sleepers and my first biological was a stomach sleeper too. They are all perfectly happy children running around my house. When my mother was young she had 4 kids. With the first two she was told they had to be on their stomach, with the second two (me included) she was told put them on their back. So much has changed over the years and it has gone back and forth a few times. As long as your baby was in a safe environment and did not actually suffocate from being on his/her stomach than it is in no way your fault. I had a really hard time because in all of my paper work from his death it says that he died from an unsafe sleeping environment. The practically blamed me for something I had absolutely nothing to do with.

Stay strong and just remember this is not your fault. You did nothing wrong. Sometimes bad shit just happens to good people. I am very sorry for your loss and I hope with time the pain lessens for you.

Willow

I understand how you feel. My husband was co-sleeping with our infant when he passed away. I was the one who found him and my husband blames himself. He was not close to our baby, though, and they ruled out suffocation immediately. I think most members on here would agree that they followed ALL of the precautions and still lost their little ones. Please, please don't blame yourself. The "what ifs" will make you crazy and the other poster was right when she said that our children had to already have something that was triggered. There was nothing that you could have done differently. But I know that saying that isn't helpful so I will just say that I am sorry. :-(

The serotonin level does seem to be our biggest breakthrough. So how do we increase that while we're pregnant or after our babies are born? I've done a little research but all I can find are example of how to increase it in adults.

My son was one of many here who died while on his back. In 1995, when I had my oldest son, the "thing" at the time was to put a baby to sleep on their side with a friggin wedge pillow!!!! We will be celebrating his sweet 16, he lived just fine. Babies have been tummy sleeping for centuries and have lived to tell about it. I used to be an avid reader on anything SIDS related, now I am more of an avid writer because when I read or see BS like what you saw, I speak out against it.

If anyone's baby did die while on their back, could you let us know? I also feel so guilty for letting Ellie sleep on her tummy and although everyone tells me that it has nothing to do with sleeping position, I would like to hear if anyone had back sleepers?
Thanks.

My son was sleeping on his back when he died.