Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) Support Group
Sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) is any sudden and unexplained death of an apparently healthy infant aged one month to one year. SIDS is responsible for roughly 50 deaths per 100,000 births in the US.
OK I MUST VENT...There are a few things I have not written here throughout the past few months because I knew that Kaili's family may become a part of this network. There are things that they did not know about the way this situation was handled BUT THEY KNOW NOW so here goes There was NO INVESTIGATION of the scene of the baby's death. I sat in this house, my home, for 8 hours not touching or moving a thing WAITING for the LAW TO DO THEIR JOB. When they did not it was ME who started making phone calls....it was ME who put on rubber gloves and collected her clothes and the sheet that she was sleeping on and put it in a ziplock bag. It was ME who got social services and the Department of child development to come to my door! NOT IN MY JOB DESCRIPTION LAST TIME I CHECKED! What ass-backwards town has a baby show up at an emergency room and no one is sent to investigate? What kind of town is it when a person calls 911 on a unresponsive infant and no Law Inforcement shows up???
With that said the other home providers and I demanded a meeting with all county and state officials who had to do with or should have had to do with this to a meeting. It took some pushing and shoving but we got a date and everyone showed. Our sherriff was arrogant and basically seemed like we were wasting his time. He stated that he spoke to the ER at 6 or 7 that evening (Kaili left my home at 12:30 in the afternoon) the ER told him that they believed it was SIDS so he did not feel that it was nessesary to investigate.I also insinuated that it was easier on me that I did not have people interrogating me at such a horrible time. I am sorry but for me it made it worse to know that if something was found in the autopsy days later all I would have was my word. In a situation like this we as daycare providers NEED the investigation process. We need their bed and bedding to be collected so it is analyzed. I just don't understaND HOW THEY CAN JUST SWEEP THIS UNDER THE RUG LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED.
So with that said Kaili's mother knows all of this now and had started asking questions of the sherriff. He had a meeting with her and had the nerve to take credit for the meeting WE MADE HIM ATTEND!!!! He told her that no one wanted to get to the bottom of this but him and he made it happen. THE NERVE!!!!
Anyway I am very curious about the other areas of the country and how situations like this have been handled. If there are any of you that can help me or have any suggestions please let me know. I don't think they should be able to get away with this do you?
With that said the other home providers and I demanded a meeting with all county and state officials who had to do with or should have had to do with this to a meeting. It took some pushing and shoving but we got a date and everyone showed. Our sherriff was arrogant and basically seemed like we were wasting his time. He stated that he spoke to the ER at 6 or 7 that evening (Kaili left my home at 12:30 in the afternoon) the ER told him that they believed it was SIDS so he did not feel that it was nessesary to investigate.I also insinuated that it was easier on me that I did not have people interrogating me at such a horrible time. I am sorry but for me it made it worse to know that if something was found in the autopsy days later all I would have was my word. In a situation like this we as daycare providers NEED the investigation process. We need their bed and bedding to be collected so it is analyzed. I just don't understaND HOW THEY CAN JUST SWEEP THIS UNDER THE RUG LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED.
So with that said Kaili's mother knows all of this now and had started asking questions of the sherriff. He had a meeting with her and had the nerve to take credit for the meeting WE MADE HIM ATTEND!!!! He told her that no one wanted to get to the bottom of this but him and he made it happen. THE NERVE!!!!
Anyway I am very curious about the other areas of the country and how situations like this have been handled. If there are any of you that can help me or have any suggestions please let me know. I don't think they should be able to get away with this do you?
Jme5
i know what you mean, but the officer came by my side and took over the compressions. they took her away and i collapsed. don't want to go into a long story so here is the short version...after she was actually pronounced dead. i had all the looks that could kill. the dr.s pulled me aside and told me that i had done everything right. i then went home and put a table in front of the door to her room and put a angel on it. nothing moved. i left everything how it was. i tried to get the medical examiner to blame me because of all the behind my back talk. natties dr. slipped one day and told me that the med. examiner said that nattie died on her side and then rolled to her face. i think that we want the investigation and whatever it takes to get people to understand. also for our peace of mind...
deleted_user
100% agree. I don't think anyone can be 100% satisfied with the answers that are given but it does not mean they are not needed.
sgp2oo3
Well here's my f*ed story of my son's passing... In my opinion, it wasn't SIDS that took my son.. it was neglegiance on his fathers part, guilty or innocent, intentional or not, he neglected to fully care for my son. When I got home from my frantic drive home from work (a 40 mile drive in 5 o'clock traffic) there were cops all over the place they wouldn't let me go inside my apartment they wouldn't let me see my baby and they wouldn't let me talk to Michael, the father. They kept threatening to arrest me and put me in a cop car because I was freaking out so bad and wasn't remaining calm. HOW DO YOU REMAIN CALM WHEN YOU'RE SHUT OUT OF YOU'RE CHILDS DEATH? They were interrogating Michael inside my house while I layed infront of my door balling. After they were done with Michael I think we ended up leaving, they went around to the whole apartment complex trying to dig up dirt on Michael for some reason and arrested him 5 days later for supposidly leaving the apartment that day for like 20 minutes without Nickolus and going to the neighbors. The charges didn't stick because it was hear say, and they couldn't charge him for what he did do which was not take care of my son that day. The detectives were cock strong and let their ego's get in the way of effectively punishing him for my son's passing. Cops... how could we live without them?
deleted_user
When I woke up that monday morning, my husband was the first to notice jaden not breathing. I began cpr while he called 911. The abulance was fast but the police were unsensitive and convviscated everthing in his room and still has hit. This was in july They took my husband to the police station , not the hospital, saying it was procedure, I have received the death cert. in July with cause of death as sids. The police will not return his things saying they have an on going investigation which is "procedure" for child endandgerment as well as homicide. I am lost. This is a small town and I dont know what the deal is but I have hired an atty. to obtain my sons belongings back. It hurts so much that Jaden died in the first place now this?
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