I recently was told that my doctor (not the dr. who delieved Deven) had to deliver her baby at six months of age. The day before she went in for her six month ultra sound and was told the baby had some heart problems. The next day she did not feel the baby moving and went to the dr. Long story short her baby was dead. I was told she is having a very hard time with this and went back to work 2 weeks later because she couldn't stay home. My doctor did not tell me but I was told by my boss. We live in a town of 888 people and because we work in the health field my boss knew. Anyways today when I had to go to the clinic I asked to see her and gave her the card. She then asked how I was doing I gave a small smile and then asked how she was doing. I could tell she knew I knew and her eyes just welled up. She then said let me know if I can do anything for you, and I said you do the same. I gave her a hug and left. Of course in the card I suggested she check out this web site. My question is; have I crossed the line between patient and Doctor or was it ok for me to approach her since this is not something that is just gossip. Of course I never just came out and said I know, it was obvious I could see in her eyes, as all of us know the look of a mother who has lost a child is so obvious when you see it. I just hope I have not invaded her privacy as I know she was trying not to tell people as not many even knew she was pregnant. I actually went to see her after Deven died and never knew she was pregnant. I guess knowing that it is helpful to have people around who are walking in our shoes I was just compelled to reach out to her even though I am still forever away from coming to terms with losing my sweet Deven. I guess I am just wodering if I crossed the line?
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