I hope someone can answer this problem. It has been a on going BIG issue between my husband and me. He has had strokes, diabetics and a operation on his eye. I know he is very upset about these health issues. Siince the strokes his personality has change 4 the worse. I have been very patient with him for the past 5 yrs. He does have good days where he is almost his old self. He has always been a controling man. The strokes has caused him to say nasty things to me. Mostly about sex. He has gotten a med from his dr so he can have sex again. But the problem is he thinks we should have sex all of the time. But don't men know that sex doesn't start n the bedroom. For instant he will be nasty to me and yell about stupid shit. Then he expects me to have sex with. He will say if I don't have sex with him he will look else where. There 4 many times he makes me feel like a paid hooker. Because when I say no...he will say he has bought me jewery or spent money on me for other things. lI guess this comes down to a few issues. First we have a adult daughter who lives with us. Neither 1 of us feel we can have sex with her always here. Second because of his health issues he couldn't have sex for probably 5 yrs. Third I get really bad uti when we do have sex. I just got of the hospital because I had pyelonephrsis. I have been in manger pain 4 over 3 weeks. He think I am having an affair because we didn't have sex for so long. He decided that since I dlidn't with him then I 4 sure did with another man.Helistens to my phone calls( I therefore don't talk on the phone until he does to bed) He questions where I go, who I talk to, even when I go outsilde to read. He finds some stupid reason to come out to see what I am doing. I don't have a boyfried. One man is enough for me. As long as I am with him and he can watch my every move he isn't as bad. I am not having an affair and if I was I am not dumb enough to have a man call the house for me. He jumps to get the phone everytime it rings. I have told him a million times there is no one else. I have given him chance after chance since May. When he gets real crazy I tell him I am going to move out. I really can't afford to live on my own. But I am just so emotionly over this. The only time he is really nice to me is when we go on vacation. He is a different man. I don't want that to happen because we have been married 40 yrs. I know sex is the most important thing to him. I like sex too. But I just can't get him to believe me that there is someone else. He gets down right nasty if I say know. I would love your replies. I know this is a long message.
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