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it is so bad when a mother rather be at work then at hom with her kids. that is how i am everyday. i cant wait to go to work or go to the store. not only is it my 7 year old but now the 4 year old i doing it now. he follows his oldr brother. now my biggest fear may come true. i am afraid that my 1 year old who is my blood my do the same thing when he is old because his older brothers both do it. christain the 7 year old had oatmeal for breakfest well he didnt want it because it wasnt done right then he wanted to play insted of eating. so i made him go to his room. then he and his brother dustin (4) started to fight and i had to put them in the corner. christian wouldnt answer me where i could hear him so he had to go to his room, then dustin wouldnt stay in time out. some times i feel like my husband dont want to put a stop to it. when we do talk about it he yells at the kids because the way they treat me. he wont spank them or punish them in amy way, all he does is treaten them. i dont think that i belong here because of all of this. i dont know any more. i have so much on me and it goes away then it comes right back. i try to talk to my husband and then we get in to a fight about it. i dont know any more. what should i do what can i do?
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Take a deep breath. Is dad involved with dicipline? The younger children are going to follow what the older kids do, so start with christain. set limits and stick to them. At 7 yrs old he could probably make his own oatmeal (if its instant.)Or say eat the oatmeal if your hungry because the next meal is lunch. No snacks. Also, dad needs to step up and in. Discipline isn't somthing that only happens if your in the mood, its an 27-7-365 until they are 18. But if you get it right...its awesome.
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I understand how it feels to be the mom. I saw a story on 20/20 about how children just don't accept disciplin from mother's the way they do father's. If you can get your husband to enforce the rules that may help. I know, way easier said than done! The program also advised that it doesn't need to be the father, that having any male authority figure give out some discipline will work. I have a teenage daughter and she is actually a pretty good kid but she gives me a hard time as most kids do. When I reach my limit I tend to yell at my husband about it, he talks to her about how she is to treat me and that works for a while. If you have a brother or cousin available to talk to them it may help, even if it is just one of your female friends raising their voice it will impact them more than you as the mom will. Good Luck to you.
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