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I have been going through alot lately over the past 2 years. My girlfriend and I got split up because of our familes. I'm also trying to move out on my own for the first time and it's very hard because I'm not sure if I should do it or not. I live with my grandmother right now and I'm affraid that once I'm gone she'll be very depressed more then she is now. She swqears that she wants me to move out because she doesn't want my life to stop just because of her. My life has pretty much been put on hold for the past 3 years I mean enough is enough am I being selfish for wanting to move out and get a life of my own?
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No your not. Everyone needs to know how it feels to be on their own. You could call and visit her as much as you can. She should understand your growing up and need your own life. Sorry you an your girlfriend parted because of family. Sometimes you cant do what everyone wants and need you to do. Sometimes you have to do what you want and need to make you feel good. With in reason.
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It's not selfish at all. What is in your heart? Have you listened to it? We all need to set boundaries for ourselves and it is ok to have a life and start growing and becoming your own person. Your grandmother will need to accept this, as I am sure she will and you will need to let go of the guilt that you no doubt will feel or already feel for leaving her. If it is time for you to leave, then leave with happiness in your heart. Good luck and yes you can visit her often. You need to put yourself first..what is your heart telling you to do? "Get quiet and listen". Wishing you the best.
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thank you very much for the advice :)
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