I've been what you are going through right now and I went to the gym and exercised and that was a huge stress reliever for me. Not sure if you've tried that out. I'm going through a seperation right now and that's what's keeping me sane throught the whole ordeal. Hope this helps!

I've never experienced this exact situation, however what I do know is that if you take the time to analyze the situation and (if it helps) write out exactly what the problems are and possible solutions, you may see better days.
~Hope I was of some help

Hi Maggs, I've been where you are. Your husband needs to find a job to take some stress off you. Everybody will feel better if daddy's working and mama's happy.

When my mom was dealing with insane amounts of stress she would encourage my sisters and I to get out of the house for awhile. Might sound silly, but maybe encourage your husband to take the kids out to a movie on Friday evenings so that you have some time for yourself to destress. If you're budget is really tight and a weekly movie is out of the question, maybe he can take them to a park or hiking on the weekends. Then when you start feeling you need to be closer to them you can do more things like that together. I don't have a family but when my neighbors and colleagues are running wild all day I totally lose my mind. One advantage might be that you can explain to your family how you are feeling and set aside a quiet time in the evenings where it's not so much of a zoo at home. If you're the only one working right now, maybe there is a good time soon to ask for a review at work. It's always worth a shot. If your financial stresses are eased, your work performance may also benefit. I hope any of this helps.

I know how you feel.I take everything out on my husband. One thing I can say we both work to support our family.We don't have everything we want but survive.There is no way in the world I would work and he stay at home.If he don't want to work leave his happy butt.It is not easy with kids.