It seems to me that if the option of discussing the issue they had with you is out of the question, you maybe should confide in someone you've known for a while to ask them Exactly how you could improve. Then, I think if you made an effort to do so, you may see positive results. However, if you can talk to your parents I think it would help you to get to the root of the problem, so as to help you pass your anger.

Thank you for the advice. I dont know where my parents are. One more than likely is in prison the other?? Thank you for the other part :)

take it easy. dont push him away.... if you know your problem, find someone (close friend) to talk too. i mean i have issues to... but.. i alwauys find it easiest to talk to someone close, and/or stay active and do something.... all my issues r with money tho....

I think that realizing you have a problem is a big part of the battle, well done for admitting it. Now you need to talk it through with someone. Take your partner, if he is willing, or if your more comfortable go on your own. I see a counsellor and there is no shame whatsoever in seeing one either. If you love your partner you need to do something now. He obviously loves you, otherwise he wouldn't bother saying anything he would just leave. Good luck.

I have went through emotional abuse too in a relationship I was in. The only way to end the emotional abuse for me was to brake apart from my partner and move on with my life. The kind of emotional abuse I got was my partner was putting me down too much and that make me suicidal

I was in an emotionally abusive, hostile situation at my job. I had the job for nine yrs., but then new management came in. I found myself crying every morning, every weekend, at work, you name it. Everyone told me, oh, just hang in, at least your have a job, or just hang in, it'll get better, or hang in, at least you have your health benefits. Well, my doctor has just put me on 3 mos. disability leave because of all of the stress and toxicity of the job (I was only allowed to go to the bathroom once a day, between 10 and 10:15). I actually tried to hang in there, until last week I just broke down sobbing before going to work and couldn't quit. All I can say is, no relationship is worth emotional abuse. It tears you down physically, emotionally, your self-esteem goes to hell, your nerves are shot, you feel confused, not hungry, etc. It's not worth it. Get a support group, and get out of that abusive situation. You are worth it.

from my own personal experience is that if it is brought to your attention from self , or someone else that theres a problem, is to do a selfinventory of self, ask is this a problem because first u have to be aware there is one, if u dont think there is one then u cant change it , once u aknowledge there is one, awareness, and accept it then the first step is how do u change it , change in behavior, starts with change in thinking, and if we have only learned one way to think then we have to learn new healty ways to think, from counseling , books, whatever it is that u feel can help whatever the problem is, but i recommend someone who is knowledgable such as counselors, ect. that can guide you in right direction,,I myself was with someone who always said he would change time after time i believed him then finally i accepted he would never change, one day I asked him ok u say u are going to change, what is it that you are going to change? he couldnt even identify what it was he was changing, I myself knew what it was that needed to be changed, really it's more than just one thing to change one is to change many, I knew where his actions, behavior stemed from, he didnt' so he didnt know what he needed to change or why cause it was normal to him, he didnt know different, but does not excuse his behavior, u got to want to change whatever it is and not because someone else wants u too but because u want to, he to this day has not changed anything and we have not been together in a longtime..i hoped this helped a little.. are u got something from this.. lynda