Hi, and stressing a little today, and I dont need it, just had a heart aatack 4 weeks ago, heres the dilema, 7 yrs. ago my brother died unexpectedly, and left me beneficiary in his will and life ins. ,he was getting a divorce at the time,his wifes choice, his will specified that his daughter to get the money he left at age 21, he also has a stepson, my brother really did die with a broken heart as he didnt want the divorce ,his will also asked that his daughter be active in his family as well as other things, when he died I had to deal with all his personal stuff, the funeral and all of it, his wife was very nasty to me and contributed nothing and of course the child was never a part of our lives, 2 yrs, ago I did send the child and her brother 15,000 dollors and invited them again to spend the holiday with the family ,they declined but sent a thank-you card, my younger brother in calif, e-mails her sometimes and has informed her of how much dad left her, first of all the will was null and void and ,I had to pay his funeral expenses and debts out of this money, and this kid doesnt realize any of this she just assumes shes getting the whopping 100 gran, today she called and asked if I could get her a new computer, and shared with me what she wants to do with her dads money, she is 17 and has never called me to just talk, and the answer I gave was ok, now the problem This family has caused me so much heartache and I really dont want the niece calling me for money, I have 50 gran in the bank left I would have paid for her college and got her a car, she informed me that she will be investing her money when she gets it, she will be dissapointed im sure that it is not 100 but 50 thousand, because of the nosey ass brother, and if the shoe had been on the other foot I m sure they wouldnt have shared a dime with his family, do I send her all of the 50 and hopefully this will go away, she is not 18 yet and I have had this in cds and pay taxes on this money, my family says since I cant work anymore that I should hang on to it, I want to do right by my brother that died,but the child is not interested in me buying her a car at 18 or paying for college, she called today to just get another new computer, what would you do??
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