Hey, my name is Tracy and I recently lost my son, Caiden on Thurs., July 17th at 25 weeks. I've been reading the posts and can relate to so much of what I have been reading and found a lot of comfort in knowing there are others out here that have felt or feel the same way I do. Early on in my pregnancy, I was having pain in my upper right abdomin that I complained to my Dr. about at about 3 months in. The Dr. basically brushed it off and told me that she didn't know what the pain could be because there wasn't anything (baby or uterus)that would be up that high in my abdomin. All of the tests that I took and all of my prenatal appts. were showing everything to be just fine. My June OB appt.showed through a sonogram that everything was in place and all Caiden needed to do was grow. So, with that, I brushed it off as well and just assumed that it was growing pains since my last child was born 13 years ago. However, right before I went to the Dr. and learned what has changed my life forever, I recall that the pain was more intense on my right side earlier in that week along with a decrease in his movement and the night before I woke up many times during the night because I couldn't get comfortable and I had chills (I thought that the air was too low in the house). I had no reason to think anything was wrong because I had not been sick or anything. I am now going to see if there is something wrong with my gallbladder. Has anyone ever heard of a gall bladder problem causing an infection that caused a baby to decease? I am going nuts to try and find an answer to all this even though I know from what I have read and heard from the Dr. that I may not get an answer. I'm having a really hard time accepting that right now and I want to know why it happened. We chose to see Caiden after he was born and there was nothing wrong with him on the outside which only makes this much harder to accept. I was tested for toxemia and that was negative and the cord was not wrapped around him. I go tomorrow for a gall bladder ultrasound and I know this seems strange but, I actually hope that I find out that is what is wrong -just to have some answer. For those of you that did not get an answer to what happened in your case, how long did it take for you to come to terms with not getting an answer?
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