Yesterday I was at work and two ladies were talking about another lady who just found out she was pregnant. I was okay to hear that she had gotten pregnant until one of the ladies looked at me and said, "Everyone seems to be getting pregnant around here thats why you need to get pregnant and have another baby soon". I was so upset after she said this to me. Doesn't everyone understand that having another baby will not replace my son? As bad as I would love to have a child to hold in my arms, my Colin will never be able to be replaced. I would definately love to be pregnant again, but I'm not ready to try yet. Everyone thinks that will be a solution to my problems. I really am getting the feeling that everyone just thinks he can be replaced. Would you say to someone who has just lost their grandmother to go get another grandmother? No, never because it's not possible to replace someone. It also makes me mad because people say to me to have another baby again like it is an easy thing. What happens if my husband and I try and don't get pregnant right away? Doesn't anyone understant that ttc again is another whole set of fears and worries to deal with. I don't have the innocence of pregnancy like I did before. I know that even if my husband and I are lucky enough to get the chance to have another pregnancy that again, it may not end up happy. I know I need to think positive and that I am extra sensitive and emotional with everything, but I hate that people make it seem like it is going to just be an easy thing for me. I hate that everyone has moved on says things to me like my son never ever happened. Has this ever been said to any of you and if so how have you handled it? This wasn't the first time this was said, and I know it won't be the last time, so how do I tell people that they are being rude and insensitive without me being rude and insensitive. Thanks for letting me vent. Christa
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