I lost my second child 11 days ago at 5 months. The first miscarrage occored at 3 months and i was afraid to try again. When i lost Jayla at 5 months (after i allowed myself to get attached) it was and still is the hardest thing i've ever had to deal with. My question is, how do i deal with my husband? he has been wonderfly supportive, but i find it hard to talk to him about it. i just don't think that he understands my hurt. yes, he lost our daughter too, but he didn't carry her. He didn't feel her. He didn't birth her or see her lifeless little body. He doesn't feel the sence of failure that i do. in addition, he already has a son by another woman who he gets to watch grow up and love and hold. I don't have that. He tells me that he is grieving as i am, but he's got his son to live for and all i have are the memories of what i had. am i being selfish in feeling alone? am i wrong for not wanting to be around him and his son? does he really understand?
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