Have you ever felt that someone was insinuating that you are to blame for your baby's death? Today I spoke to a colleague of mine about my loss. She was shocked because even though she is 55 years old, this is the first time she has ever heard of a still birth. She said that she was sorry for me. I wish she stopped there. Then came the questions...Why? What did you do? Did you lift or carry something heavy? Do you smoke? Do you use alcohol? Were you eating healthy? Did you take any medications against the doctors advice?.......Oh my God!! Like an interrogation it sounded. Then she told me that she found it unbelievable that I had a vaginal birth and that I even held my baby and that he was buried. Ignorance. I am thinking of never talking about my loss to anyone again. However sometimes it is difficult when people ask you if you have any children. I can never say "no" because George is my child, my baby , my angel even though he is not here with me. I am proud to be his mama. I am even crying as i write this.
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