
Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.
So yes, knowing what I know now and even how crazy things would be, I'd still choose my husband because at some point the crazy will stop and we'll be left with many happy years.
I love the times we had until the girls mom came back in the picture approx 5 years ago. no matter how bad the ex is she is still the real mom and your the step
Anyway, I told him how I felt and made it clear I was doing it for him and no one else, because I couldn't imagine being without him.
In essence, yes, I would.
Even with all the heartache that comes with being a stepmother, he makes it worth it every minute of the day.
The ex bailed off of the deep end. YOU should have told me before you told OUR son. We should have told him together, not you and your wife. I'm tired of being excluded as his mother. Excuse me, but I was the one moving with my DH, not her. She ranted about HER son having Asperger's Syndrome, (high functioning autism), and how it would be a disaster to uproot him and change all that he has known.
Now, the shoe is on the other foot. Her husband is getting ready to retire from the USAF in March 2008. They are planning to move out of state, (Kansas or Florida), because there are no civilian jobs in his career field in Delaware. Where is the, "Oh, it's bad for our son to be uprooted." rant now? She drives me NUTS!!! (This is just a small sample of how crazy she is.)
It's DEFINITELY caused friction in our marriage. However, I stick with it for two reasons. One, I love my DH more than life itself. He is my rock, best friend and lover. Two, I hang in there for my SS. He tells me all of the time, that he loves me. He tells me I'm beautiful, a great cook, very clean housekeeper, and a great SM. He's only nine!!! He needs to know, that there are better women out there, than his mom. Trust me, it's not a competition to win his love. He sees the differences between his mom and I.
There is nothing the ex can do, that will break my marriage apart. Believe me, she's tried. I have two GREAT guys that need and appreciate me, always. I do what I do, for them, not for her. Even though, I wouldn't marry another guy with kids. It does get totally frustrating and depressing.
Keep the faith ladies! Thanks for letting me rant.