
Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.

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What do you do when the ex is trying to blackmail your DH? My DH's ex is spreading horrific lies about him and really trying to cause problems and get him thrown in jail. It isn't true and she doesn't have an proof to support anything she's saying, but it could really damage my DH's reputation and his ability to see his kids. What she is accusing him of is sick and gross. I can't believe that anyone would do such a thing, but she is a sick person.
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It is a pain in the backside, but.... DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT! I have had to do this with my DH's ex. It's time consuming, and I feel that it shouldn't have to be done. However, for the greater good of the child/children, it is well worth the effort.
You are a great character witness for your DH. Try to find other people, willing to make a statement attesting to your DH's fathering skills. Remember, even though it doesn't always look that way, the truth will always come out. Get DH to use what he knows of her character, to bring the truth of the matter to the forefront. My DH does this very well. He can usually get the ex to do the opposite of what she intended to do, without her knowing he did it!
Good luck to you my dear! I'm with you on this one.
I document everything. I haven't documented stuff in the past couple of months, because it's been relatively quiet, but phone calls are on the calendar and conversation notes are there as well. I just have to go back and type it all up. Last time I checked I had between 40-50 pages of stuff going back 2 years. We have receipts for everything we've purchased and paid for, copies of the phone bills, everything.
Anyway, thanks for the support. I was hoping their mediation wouldn't go to court, but now I'm hoping just so the judge will tell her to knock it off.
Interesting that parenting plans are supposed to be to outline what's in the best interests of the children, but in this case their rights aren't important to their mom. She insisted that that section be removed.
Anyway, DH re-did the parenting plan with his requested changes and really their aren't very many. He asked that all exchanges take place on Saturday at 2, that if visits must be canceled or changed that they are made up, the kids' rights are outlined, medical information is shared, and if she and the kids are in the area that she lets him know and allows reasonable visitation. (He'd be happy taking them to dinner.).
It seems crazy to threated/and lie about someone for those basic things. DH gets 1 week every Christmas, every other Turkey day from Wed-Sun (he said he'd agree to Sat if the other changes were met.), every spring break, and 6 weeks in the summer.
She got a copy of his concerns about the 1st draft and called freaking out saying she was going to prove in court XYZ.
She would make a wonderful case study.
It's sad that when dads or moms are really trying to do what is best for their kids and really want to have a relationship that someone so evil can ruin something so simple and beautiful.
It takes 2 people to make a baby (or in some cased 5-6---infertility), and that child is 1/2 of each parent. They wouldn't be who they are without the other 1/2 of the DNA. It's so easy to be nice and care about the other person, why do parents have to make things so stinking ugly?
(Background....she cheated on DH and wanted out. He stayed and tried until he actually caught her.)
She sent her response to her attorney and lied! She was in town May 07 for her DH's college graduation and said that it was last minute and that my DH hadn't called the kids in 3 weeks.
I work on campus! The deadline to apply for graduation was 11/9/06 for May and to be able to walk. We also have the phone records of DH calling his kids. These things are all verifiable (I sent the documents to his attorney.) She also claimed that the reason the kids were late for school 30+ times last year was because of the school store. Well, my DH has an email from the Principle refuting that claim. She is a complete idiot to lie about things that can be checked on. I am sorry, but I am so mad right now.
Oh, and she refuses to send medical bills for the kids because DH can get them for him self and because she claims she gave me access. Well, why in the heck would I call to get medical information on the kids when she freaks about me asking for a Boy Scout Troop number? HOLY CRAP!!!!
I'm sorry, but right now I am so angry. This women is the most horrible, manipulative, lying sack I've ever had the displeasure of meeting in my life.