Wow, I'm so sorry you have to keep dealing with this horrible ex. She is a nightmare. I don't know any laws around this but maybe he can threaten her with something regarding slander or defamation of character. Perhaps she is just trying to stir up trouble again and making empty threats but knowing it will get to you. She is a miserable person. Hang in there...

i kinda went through something like thins, only my mom was victim. i had to sit and be invetigated by child services and all that fun tsuff because of my dads accusations to get her and his other ex wife thrown in jail so that he could have us kids. my stepmom assisted in all of that, and i despise her. she tried to tell the cops that my mom sold me on the streets to make money.where did she pull that bs from? ugh. but i really hope your problems decrease soon. best wishes.

Just like my DH's ex threatening me with a harrassment lawsuit over emails, where we both asked for replies! These women are a blight on society. The only advice I have, is that it won't hold water in court. As in my case, the ex couldn't prove harrassment, if it bit her in the butt! Sometimes it's all smack talking. In your case.... Since I don't know this person, I cannot say what she would/wouldn't do.

It is a pain in the backside, but.... DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT! I have had to do this with my DH's ex. It's time consuming, and I feel that it shouldn't have to be done. However, for the greater good of the child/children, it is well worth the effort.

You are a great character witness for your DH. Try to find other people, willing to make a statement attesting to your DH's fathering skills. Remember, even though it doesn't always look that way, the truth will always come out. Get DH to use what he knows of her character, to bring the truth of the matter to the forefront. My DH does this very well. He can usually get the ex to do the opposite of what she intended to do, without her knowing he did it!

Good luck to you my dear! I'm with you on this one.

Spend $100 and have an attorney write her a letter threatening to sue her for unsubstantiated accusations.

PS: You don't have to hire an attorney to represent you, just have him write one letter. That'll end it.

My DH and I talked about it. He isn't too worried, but agreed that his attorney should know about what's going on. He didn't want to involve his attorney before because he wanted to keep the mediation as "friendly" as possible, but since she keeps threatening him...

I document everything. I haven't documented stuff in the past couple of months, because it's been relatively quiet, but phone calls are on the calendar and conversation notes are there as well. I just have to go back and type it all up. Last time I checked I had between 40-50 pages of stuff going back 2 years. We have receipts for everything we've purchased and paid for, copies of the phone bills, everything.

Anyway, thanks for the support. I was hoping their mediation wouldn't go to court, but now I'm hoping just so the judge will tell her to knock it off.

With all the stuff that she has done, it would be good for your case to go to trial, that way the judge will see her for what she is and she will have no credibility left. Mediation only works when both sides are willing to abide by the rules, and from the sound of it, she is not. She should have to pay for what she has done. I wish you the best.

My DH got another version of their parenting plan in the mail yesterday. Her attorney did not make any of the changes he requested and the section outlining the kids' rights was completely removed.

Interesting that parenting plans are supposed to be to outline what's in the best interests of the children, but in this case their rights aren't important to their mom. She insisted that that section be removed.

Anyway, DH re-did the parenting plan with his requested changes and really their aren't very many. He asked that all exchanges take place on Saturday at 2, that if visits must be canceled or changed that they are made up, the kids' rights are outlined, medical information is shared, and if she and the kids are in the area that she lets him know and allows reasonable visitation. (He'd be happy taking them to dinner.).

It seems crazy to threated/and lie about someone for those basic things. DH gets 1 week every Christmas, every other Turkey day from Wed-Sun (he said he'd agree to Sat if the other changes were met.), every spring break, and 6 weeks in the summer.

She got a copy of his concerns about the 1st draft and called freaking out saying she was going to prove in court XYZ.

She would make a wonderful case study.

It's sad that when dads or moms are really trying to do what is best for their kids and really want to have a relationship that someone so evil can ruin something so simple and beautiful.

It takes 2 people to make a baby (or in some cased 5-6---infertility), and that child is 1/2 of each parent. They wouldn't be who they are without the other 1/2 of the DNA. It's so easy to be nice and care about the other person, why do parents have to make things so stinking ugly?

(Background....she cheated on DH and wanted out. He stayed and tried until he actually caught her.)

Hey purple - the more I read your posts the more I think this lady is twins with my husband's ex! She was cheating too and DH walked in on it. And she is so selfish about the children, its incredible. I share custody of my son because I felt that's what was fair. I think your husband's suggestions were so fair and reasonable. It sounds similar to what we wanted. I still feel these evil ex's are just truly miserable people and want to make everyone around them miserable. She doesn't think of the kids, just herself. She wants to control everyone. You are a strong person for all you have to put up with!

Update:
She sent her response to her attorney and lied! She was in town May 07 for her DH's college graduation and said that it was last minute and that my DH hadn't called the kids in 3 weeks.

I work on campus! The deadline to apply for graduation was 11/9/06 for May and to be able to walk. We also have the phone records of DH calling his kids. These things are all verifiable (I sent the documents to his attorney.) She also claimed that the reason the kids were late for school 30+ times last year was because of the school store. Well, my DH has an email from the Principle refuting that claim. She is a complete idiot to lie about things that can be checked on. I am sorry, but I am so mad right now.

Oh, and she refuses to send medical bills for the kids because DH can get them for him self and because she claims she gave me access. Well, why in the heck would I call to get medical information on the kids when she freaks about me asking for a Boy Scout Troop number? HOLY CRAP!!!!

I'm sorry, but right now I am so angry. This women is the most horrible, manipulative, lying sack I've ever had the displeasure of meeting in my life.

WOW! She really is the other evil twin to my DH's ex! Hang in there girlie. I'm here for ya. My thoughts and prayers are with you and hubby. Keep us posted.