Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.
My SS came home last weekend (he was on his Mom's time) drunk with two other friends. She didn't send any of them home. She just let them go to bed and then sent them home in the morning without addressing them. My SS was spoken to but had no repercussions from either his mother or my husband. Isn't that the same as giving a green light? The only thing they could say to him is how serious the consequences were if authorities/school were to find out. How would he know about consequences if they are unwilling/unable to show him what the consequences are in our homes? I think it is terribly disrespectful to show up at your parents home drunk. I never did it but I know everyone's different. (My husband is 15 years older than me and my stepson and I have known each other since he was 8, he's now 15). Am I the only one to see what's wrong with this picture. Thank you and many blessings.
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Makes you wonder if parents who choose not to serve a consequence would feel differently if their son or daughter broke the law in another way. My SS and SD recently got permission to drink when they were away with their bio mom. Both are under age.
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One thing I have always told my kids (step included): it takes time to care enough to be a good parent. If you don't care, you don't have to take the time to address any issues. I think your husband and his ex are taking the easy way out, but they are just raising a child who will have problems later on in life. If you have any influence on this child, talk to him about how bad his behavior was. Also, you should talk to your husband and let him know that he's not being a parent. He's being more of a buddy. His son needs a father, not another friend.
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my husband has a 15yr old and has a fake ID -- he goes out to get drunk everyweekend and his his dad does not say anything. His mother is a slut and goes out all the time and comes home drunk also. This is not a good example for his kid and I cant say anything becuase he is not my kid. The dad does not want to deal with it...So I know what your going through--some of us trully care but its their own parents who dont give a shit of the outcome of their children.
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I remember coming home to my friends house drunk and her mother called my mother and I swear I was grounded for the rest of high school. Granted that was a long time ago, but we never did it again. My schoolmates that had parents that didn't care or let them drink or helped them get a fake ID....well, not be be TOTALLY stereotypical, but they are not exactly successful, moral, ethically sound, and honestly some of them are felons now. They never learned about what happens when breaking the rules and when they broke big ones, they thought they would just slide out of it and police are a whole lot different than indifferent parents. Anyway, that's just my take on it. It sure might make a difference if parents would put aside their guilt sometimes. As a step-parent, I am not looking forward to the day I have to deal with this. My ss's are very young right now. Good luck to you.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
