
Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.

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My stepson said he loves me (hasn't said that in awhile) and gave me a kiss goodnight. YAY!!!!
Gosh, this stepmother business is like one crazy rollercoaster ride. You never know which way things can go and while things might be calm for a bit they sure don't seem to stay that way and vice versa. Oh well, I guess I should really enjoy and appreciate these good moments that are far and few between.
On that note, I want to hear from everyone about their most current special moment they shared with their stepkid.
Gosh, this stepmother business is like one crazy rollercoaster ride. You never know which way things can go and while things might be calm for a bit they sure don't seem to stay that way and vice versa. Oh well, I guess I should really enjoy and appreciate these good moments that are far and few between.
On that note, I want to hear from everyone about their most current special moment they shared with their stepkid.
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1.)The first summer (there have only been 2) my SD told me that I was the weirdest step-mom ever. I thought it was wonderful because at the time we were playing.
2.) My SS is very loyal to his mom. Well during the 1st summer he jumped out of the car and gave me a hug. That night he crawled onto my lap and cuddled and then told me he loved me.
3.) At Christmas (the only one) we were taking the kids skiing. My SD asked her dad when we were going to get there. Her brother turned to her and said, Come Spring. (Come Spring is something my dad said to us growing up. I started saying it to the kids after we met. It was just something fun.) What made me so happy is that they really do listen to the smallest things. I discovered that no matter how small, I could have a positive impact.
4.) My SK usually fight over who gets to sit with dad. I understand where they are coming from, but sometime it really bothers me. Anyway, during our last visit in September, my SS didnt fight with his sister on who was going to sit by dad. He said he was going to sit by me. (Dad did sit with him too, but choose to sit by me.)
I almost passed out! :)
As a step-parent, I know my SD always compares what I do to what her mom would do. I don't blame her, I'm not her mom. But it hurts so bad when I put forth effort in something and all I get is "mom's is better cause..." My heart drops to the pit of my stomach. I know it's coming, but it's never any less painful.
But, back to MrsR, we started this dinner thing about 2 weeks ago. We eat dinner together almost every night, but we started letting her pick dishes from her own cookbook. On Sunday, we all go to the store, buy what we need and make it. We use our nice plates, turn the lights off and light candles. We make a big deal out of it because it means something to her. It's exhausting and stressful for me because I have to watch over a 15 y/o and my H, but I'm not doing it for me.
As we were cleaning up, she refused to let me do the dishes. The second I put the brush down, she took it and wouldn't give it back. I was so surprised that she didn't just get up from the table and go watch TV. I'll never forget it.
A funny thing, whenever a cop has someone pulled over, she says, "busted" which I used to say many many years ago. We laugh every time!
It made me feel SO special!!!!