Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.
Ok, so some of you guys read my post about phone calls....well an update to that whole drama is that after we purchased plane tickets she called tonight and changed plans! Oh, this was only after DH told her he couldn't pay for a skating competition. Mind you she had their daughter call and ask after she asked. (We've spent $2,100 in travel since September not counting plane tickets.)
Anyway, she said that she would be in MT for Christmas so we could meet her in Livingston or she'd bring the kids to our house.
Snotty, I know, but a girls got to have some boundaries and a place of peace. I told DH that she wasn't welcome in our home. He said I was acting like the other person. On some level yes, but I told him that I get to have some peace and establish some boundaries. This is my home and I deserve some refuge from the insanity and something. Not that her phone calls provide any piece but at least we know when shes calling by the ring.
So we spent $520 on plane tickets. We used a companion fare so one ticket was $60 and 15,000 air miles to get the other one down to 1/2 and the tickets were still that much and for nothing.
So I am frustrated. I told DH that 2 things keep going through my mind. 1st our marriage is not going to last through this crap, and 2nd I'm never going to get pregnant because of all the stress!
Sorry...I needed to vent.
Anyway, she said that she would be in MT for Christmas so we could meet her in Livingston or she'd bring the kids to our house.
Snotty, I know, but a girls got to have some boundaries and a place of peace. I told DH that she wasn't welcome in our home. He said I was acting like the other person. On some level yes, but I told him that I get to have some peace and establish some boundaries. This is my home and I deserve some refuge from the insanity and something. Not that her phone calls provide any piece but at least we know when shes calling by the ring.
So we spent $520 on plane tickets. We used a companion fare so one ticket was $60 and 15,000 air miles to get the other one down to 1/2 and the tickets were still that much and for nothing.
So I am frustrated. I told DH that 2 things keep going through my mind. 1st our marriage is not going to last through this crap, and 2nd I'm never going to get pregnant because of all the stress!
Sorry...I needed to vent.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
When the ex-wife brought my SS down for his summer visitation, I asked DH to not allow her into our new home. What does he do? Invites her and her husband in for a tour! He also allowed the ex to use our guest bathroom. You can believe me when I say, I sanitized the heck outta that bathroom. Especially after hearing DH say, that the ex smelled REALLY bad. After that cleaning, I think I own stock in Clorox!
I've told DH repeatedly, you need to stand up to her. His reply is always, "There is nothing I can do about it." I get so sick and tired of this comment. Grow some balls and stop letting her roll you over, so that she can continually kick you in the gut.
I can't stand these ex-wives, who think that they can still run the ex-husbands life and that of their new wife too. They make me sick! What's worse, is when our DH don't do anything and lets the ex have her way.
Good luck sweetie. I wish you the best. Sorry that I got up on my soapbox. I just can't stand to see one of my friends in pain and misery.