Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.
in a nut shell
wife has lupus and depression she will not talk about anything any time of day...she comes home at night watches tv for a while and wont step in to help straighten out the kids (seems like she has given up)
17 yr old step daughter has 3 month old and step daughter seems to think its all owed to her and that the world revolves around her..(she hates my guts on top of it)
15 year old step son sees what she gets away with and is now basicly not talking only grunting and walking around like he is a zombie with ear phones
none of them seems to want to do anything around here to even help
I on the other hand get to watch all of this going and run my butt off cooking cleaning laundry picking up after them and on top of that also working
I can understand my wife and what she is going through but the kids are old enough where they should at lest help i would think
I dont know if there just is no common sense any more because they see things need to get done but just go off and do thier thing till dinner time then show up eat and leave like its some kind of hilton
I have tried to stop doing things around here but then my wife nags me as to why i just did not do it
Here is how bad it is my wife had to help her 17 yr old daught clean her room and bathroom and it took 3 hours
that was 2 weeks ago and its right back into the same mess. I scratch my head and think that she has a 3 month old living in what i would call a disater area.
I need help not sure what to do any more
other poeple out side the home have noticed the kids additudes with them and have made comments to me and all i can say is i know and that i agree
Anyone have any ideas before i go and get my self comitted some where quite
wife has lupus and depression she will not talk about anything any time of day...she comes home at night watches tv for a while and wont step in to help straighten out the kids (seems like she has given up)
17 yr old step daughter has 3 month old and step daughter seems to think its all owed to her and that the world revolves around her..(she hates my guts on top of it)
15 year old step son sees what she gets away with and is now basicly not talking only grunting and walking around like he is a zombie with ear phones
none of them seems to want to do anything around here to even help
I on the other hand get to watch all of this going and run my butt off cooking cleaning laundry picking up after them and on top of that also working
I can understand my wife and what she is going through but the kids are old enough where they should at lest help i would think
I dont know if there just is no common sense any more because they see things need to get done but just go off and do thier thing till dinner time then show up eat and leave like its some kind of hilton
I have tried to stop doing things around here but then my wife nags me as to why i just did not do it
Here is how bad it is my wife had to help her 17 yr old daught clean her room and bathroom and it took 3 hours
that was 2 weeks ago and its right back into the same mess. I scratch my head and think that she has a 3 month old living in what i would call a disater area.
I need help not sure what to do any more
other poeple out side the home have noticed the kids additudes with them and have made comments to me and all i can say is i know and that i agree
Anyone have any ideas before i go and get my self comitted some where quite
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
What I would do if I were in your shoes is encourage your wife to get some counselling for her depression. And set up a chore schedule for the kids. Don't give too much responsibility at one time though...if the task seems insurmountable to them, they won't do it.
I wish you the best of luck :)
Teens are normally what you described but that doesn't mean you have to bow to it. Discipline. You can lock down the house and their stuff. Take that ear bud away, if he gets another take it away. Store it at work or whatever. TV, computer, it can all go. Even the one you use can be removed. Until they get the idea and start helping out.
Also I'd stop cooking. Let em fend for themselves. Buy nothing but nourishing food and let them prepared it.
Don't wooosse out when they eat candy bars they bought for themselves. It won't kill em. Eventually they'll eat what their body needs.