My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and have been together a total of 6 years. There have been the regular issues between my stepchildren and I but just recently it got worse. I have a 16 year old stepdaughter and a 14 year old stepson. Just recently my husband's ex called him and said that the children have voiced their concern about not feeling loved and respected when they are at our house. They said that they feel less loved than the dog. This hurt me so much it was not even funny. When my husband told me I started crying and he claimed that I was too emotional. He got to talk to the kids individually and neither wanted to talk about it but wanted instead to write it down and they definitely did not want to talk about it with me. They STILL have not written it down and he is not making them. I have bent over backwards for these kids and have done so much for them. We are always doing things with them when they are here and because they are here everyother weekend they do not have any chores. All I ask for is a little respect and common courtesy. That apparently is too hard. I know that when and if my husband eventually tries to find out what is going on that it will come back to me being too strict and being a &*^&$ when I have now left all the disciplining up to him. They will not say one thing about him because he is their dad. Now there is a chance that they will be living here for a month. I feel like everytime that they are around I am walking on egg shells and I do not know what to do. Has anyone dealt with something like this or does anyone have any advice?
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