Hello everyone. I have run into another situation where I could really use some feedback from other parents and step parents. My youngest step son is 2 1/2 and his mother just had another baby. Understandably, my ss is craving more attention since the baby was born (3 weeks ago) and his mother asked that we "lavish" him with attention this weekend. I don't feel that this would be beneficial to my ss, us, or his mother because if we "lavish" him with more attention than we normally would, I think this would make him worse when he goes back to his mother. He already gets more attention when he is with us simply because we don't have children, and he is alone with us most of the time. So we have more time to play with him, or spend time outside doing yard work, grocery shopping..... It's just the way it has worked out. So far the ONLY thing that has not changed in my ss's life is his weekends with us. Like I said he is 2 1/2, and he now has 2 younger siblings, his step dad has been kicked out, moved back in, kicked out, moved back in.... his mother has been employed, unemployed, pregnant, employed, unemployed (step dad, too).... they have moved, now a new baby..... It's been kind of a rough year for the little guy in my mind. Basically my question for everyone is should we "lavish" him with attention and toys like his mother asked us to or should we change nothing and treat him just like we normally would and keep the same rules, bedtimes, etc.?? I am for changing nothing, but I wanted to ask because I know there are lots of people that have already dealt with this and I could really use some advice. Thanks much and I hope everyone is having a great holiday season!
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